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Rosebolt
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I want to ask something on here, but i'm afraid i will use this part to explain something about me too, to help understand the question more, i guess.
So basicly, in the last 3 years, when i started making real friends for the first time in my life. As is normal for the first time i felt accepted, cared for etc. etc. you know, the usual. This was all new to me, people of my age caring for me, i had to do something for them as well. I noticed that every person that was nice and sensitive all had their own problems. I'm not sure if it's a coincidence but they were also all girls. So basicly, guys were the people that beat up, spit, and yelled at me, and girls were the caring people who you could trust. I kind of made it my mission to help those that became close to me, mostly about 2 people at a time, i'm not one for a big group of friends. And then another usual story, the people i met dissapeared one by one, not just like that of course, just the moving on thing. I was mostly at fault, my insecurity back then was, when thinking back on it, unbearable to be with, and yet they still endured with pleasure. But they helped me, i helped them, they were feeling better and moving on with life, and here i was still sitting struggling with my problems.
I lost so many people in that short period of time who were all close to me. I always thought of myself as a loner, because i was, but this period of time really showed how important friendships can be, and that people can be nice, so on and so forth. However for a while i was also thinking, considering my view of my future as well, that i just want to be able to live happily without anyone around me. Very recently i had 2 previously very important people leave me again. I really want to be able to live without feeling so lonely because i have no one around.
There is a big problem though, humans are by their nature social creatures, we need others to survive, and i want to defy that very nature. Does that make sense? While reading a bit on here i saw that people had achieved this sort of state where they can be kind of happy being alone all the time, and i have alot of respect for those people. I can't do that yet, i have been thinking alot on how i could achieve such a thing, isolating myself seems to only make it worse, so the kind of "training for it" method doesn't seem to work very well. So, do any of you have any tips, suggestions, or something else they want to add?
Just one more thing to add. I know i'm 19, and i know i'm probably just a random whining teen or something, however, i'm willing to learn and work, if that helps.
If you have actually read it until this far, i really want to thank you for spending some of your time for me, i know it might sound sarcastic but it really means alot to me!
So basicly, in the last 3 years, when i started making real friends for the first time in my life. As is normal for the first time i felt accepted, cared for etc. etc. you know, the usual. This was all new to me, people of my age caring for me, i had to do something for them as well. I noticed that every person that was nice and sensitive all had their own problems. I'm not sure if it's a coincidence but they were also all girls. So basicly, guys were the people that beat up, spit, and yelled at me, and girls were the caring people who you could trust. I kind of made it my mission to help those that became close to me, mostly about 2 people at a time, i'm not one for a big group of friends. And then another usual story, the people i met dissapeared one by one, not just like that of course, just the moving on thing. I was mostly at fault, my insecurity back then was, when thinking back on it, unbearable to be with, and yet they still endured with pleasure. But they helped me, i helped them, they were feeling better and moving on with life, and here i was still sitting struggling with my problems.
I lost so many people in that short period of time who were all close to me. I always thought of myself as a loner, because i was, but this period of time really showed how important friendships can be, and that people can be nice, so on and so forth. However for a while i was also thinking, considering my view of my future as well, that i just want to be able to live happily without anyone around me. Very recently i had 2 previously very important people leave me again. I really want to be able to live without feeling so lonely because i have no one around.
There is a big problem though, humans are by their nature social creatures, we need others to survive, and i want to defy that very nature. Does that make sense? While reading a bit on here i saw that people had achieved this sort of state where they can be kind of happy being alone all the time, and i have alot of respect for those people. I can't do that yet, i have been thinking alot on how i could achieve such a thing, isolating myself seems to only make it worse, so the kind of "training for it" method doesn't seem to work very well. So, do any of you have any tips, suggestions, or something else they want to add?
Just one more thing to add. I know i'm 19, and i know i'm probably just a random whining teen or something, however, i'm willing to learn and work, if that helps.
If you have actually read it until this far, i really want to thank you for spending some of your time for me, i know it might sound sarcastic but it really means alot to me!