John654321
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Been alone almost all my life. A few High School encounters with girls on up through maybe 22 and then for 30 plus years by myself. I think at 22 I decided to limit my exposure and that if a woman had interest she would let me know. I have seen this happen a thousand plus times, but never to me. Never has anyone even suggested setting me up with someone and the few times that I did make an effort to be friends and maybe more only hurt me more. Have tried it all and even asked God many times for help but nothing. I also think that maybe in a previous life I have done something terrible and that this is punishment or that this is a test that I must endure. All the pain has led to self destructive behavior to include bouts of using drugs to numb the pain and using escorts for human touch.
I know I am a nice guy and that I have a good heart. I am 5’4”, not overweight, but life has time and time again reinforced the fact that I must be appalling to the opposite sex, even for friendship. Amazingly enough I am sure that I am not considered good looking but never thought of myself as appalling and always hoped that my heart would make up for all. I want and need companionship and have started to feel very hopeless that it will ever come. I have suffered in total silence for 30 plus years.
I signed up on this board in July of 2012 and read many post. I am very sympathetic to the pain experienced by all and wish I had the ability to heal all to include myself. I stopped reading shortly thereafter because I was sure that nothing can be done to help my situation and I did not want to be made to feel better by comparing my misery to that of others. Any suggestions appreciated?
I am happy to be physically healthy.
I am very happy and feel fortunate to be a US citizen.
I am very happy that I have 2 dogs and one cat that I can love and that love me.
I am very happy that I never hurt anyone other than myself throughout my life (So sad that this would be my legacy).
I am happy to have experienced the love of my mother and sister (both deceased).
I am very sad and hurt that I am abnormal in that I have not experienced the normal relationships with women that most men do. I would trade almost anything to have the ability to arouse a women’s desire and anything to maintain her love.
I know I am a nice guy and that I have a good heart. I am 5’4”, not overweight, but life has time and time again reinforced the fact that I must be appalling to the opposite sex, even for friendship. Amazingly enough I am sure that I am not considered good looking but never thought of myself as appalling and always hoped that my heart would make up for all. I want and need companionship and have started to feel very hopeless that it will ever come. I have suffered in total silence for 30 plus years.
I signed up on this board in July of 2012 and read many post. I am very sympathetic to the pain experienced by all and wish I had the ability to heal all to include myself. I stopped reading shortly thereafter because I was sure that nothing can be done to help my situation and I did not want to be made to feel better by comparing my misery to that of others. Any suggestions appreciated?
I am happy to be physically healthy.
I am very happy and feel fortunate to be a US citizen.
I am very happy that I have 2 dogs and one cat that I can love and that love me.
I am very happy that I never hurt anyone other than myself throughout my life (So sad that this would be my legacy).
I am happy to have experienced the love of my mother and sister (both deceased).
I am very sad and hurt that I am abnormal in that I have not experienced the normal relationships with women that most men do. I would trade almost anything to have the ability to arouse a women’s desire and anything to maintain her love.