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redinc2000

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This is my first post

I pretty much been loner all my life and i'm native american i only hung out with friends one time during my life in one of my yrs in HS other than that just me doing stuff alone. i had bad break up in senior yr of HS so i moved to small town hour and half away with my uncle then met a girl i moved again to next town over to live with her we dated 4 yrs and both my two gf's i had during my life were very controlling wouldn't let me take to any girls of any kind and i was with them 24/7 also i didn't mind. we broke up so i moved to live with my dad in different state.this is why i'm here i been going to shopping malls and fast food places eating and shopping by myself i been doing this when i never had a gf and i work retail here.I've tried couple online dating sites because i'm not a bar person so i don't know how else to get a gf and i gotten no replies so that doesn't help my self esteem :( i been watching alot of movies and tv shows and been working out little i'm even close to six pack. people my age are just finishing college or half way through and i never going to college i can't describe it i just don't think it right for me. i been thinking ALOT of how work and world wouldn't even notice if i was gone or the world doesn't even need me here.........
 
Don't think that. The world does need you.

People may have been cruel to you in the past, but that's the past. You obviously were lovable enough to get three girlfriends, so you shouldn't feel too bad.

College isn't for everyone. I go to college, and basically don't socialize with anybody from my campus. I made one friend, four years ago, and that was it...and she moved away. College isn't the social atmosphere that many would like you to believe.

And also, I've said this before, but I'll say it again...dating sites are terrible for guys, because there are four times as many men as women on there, so 3/4ths of guys are ignored or rejected. I'd suggest doing something offline.
 
redinc2000 said:
This is my first post

I pretty much been loner all my life and i'm native american i only hung out with friends one time during my life in one of my yrs in HS other than that just me doing stuff alone. i had bad break up in senior yr of HS so i moved to small town hour and half away with my uncle then met a girl i moved again to next town over to live with her we dated 4 yrs and both my two gf's i had during my life were very controlling wouldn't let me take to any girls of any kind and i was with them 24/7 also i didn't mind. we broke up so i moved to live with my dad in different state.this is why i'm here i been going to shopping malls and fast food places eating and shopping by myself i been doing this when i never had a gf and i work retail here.I've tried couple online dating sites because i'm not a bar person so i don't know how else to get a gf and i gotten no replies so that doesn't help my self esteem :( i been watching alot of movies and tv shows and been working out little i'm even close to six pack. people my age are just finishing college or half way through and i never going to college i can't describe it i just don't think it right for me. i been thinking ALOT of how work and world wouldn't even notice if i was gone or the world doesn't even need me here.........

I've just read your post, and it'd certainly trouble me if i didn't read anything else from you. So someone would notice.

Every one of us has beaten astronomical odds merely to be conceived and born. Out of over a hundred billion galaxies, each with an average of 300 billion stars, on a planet with 7 billion people, there is only one you. Please don't end something so unique.
 
thanks it does mean alot i want to change from loner to sociable but its hard ppl at my work only like rap and i love rock and i don't drink or smoke or go to bars and i'm not religious i try to say hi to some randoms when i eat or shop alone but maybe i'm meant to be alone its hard for me to accept that thats why i play video games or watch movie/tv show all day to distract me from reality.
 
Hey redinc,

I tried to distract myself with games and TV for years. Sooner or later it won't be enough, so don't give up on going out, even if you have to do it alone for right now. As others have said, the world does need you. Whether you know it or not, you have an effect on everyone you meet. You will meet people who will effect your life too, you just have to keep trying.
 
redinc2000 said:
I've tried couple online dating sites because i'm not a bar person so i don't know how else to get a gf and i gotten no replies so that doesn't help my self esteem :( i been watching alot of movies and tv shows and been working out little i'm even close to six pack. people my age are just finishing college or half way through and i never going to college i can't describe it i just don't think it right for me. i been thinking ALOT of how work and world wouldn't even notice if i was gone or the world doesn't even need me here.........

Don't give up, red. Keep doing things that will make you feel better or distract you from loneliness (if that's possible).

Your existence matters. Don't even question it. You never know what the future brings, so why not find out? By finding out, I don't mean sit on your ass and wait for things to happen.. but get out there and try to socialise. Being on this forum is a good start, I suppose, you can socialise and make some new friends, as I've done so myself.

Don't give up!! And all the best. My inbox is always open and there are some very supportive members here if you need support and motivation to keep going. :)
 

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