ardour
Well known loser
I thought women were mostly inclined to feel like this, but even as an undesirable guy like me-if a women I initially fancy is warm and friendly, I’m somehow not as interested. In my case friendly women are only being nice, so there are no personal implications. But it bothers me because it would seem this preference is self-defeating and therefore something defective in me. There’s probably some biological drive behind it ; ‘too much emotionally availability = vulnerable = poor mate selection’, even though I wouldn’t make much of a ‘mate selection’ for someone else.