is it worth to call them upon them, or is it better to just walk away and let them doubt?
I hate, hate, hate when people I was close to change behavior without explaining why, so I try not to do the same to others, but this always bites me in the ass.
This guy who behaved like a friend for a year or so but then disappeared last september doesn't chat with me anymore, doesn't help if he hears that I have a problem, never really helped before, but insists on hugging me every time we meet socially, and the last time I just stepped back and refused the hug.
Then, instead of just leaving it like that, I felt bad for him and I sent him a message, how I didn't feel he was a friend anymore and I didn't feel like hugging him, and now he hates me, deleted me from all his contacts etc etc.
If I hadn't said anything and just kept rejecting his hugs would have been 100 times better, but I felt guilty and I had to send him that bloody message. I didn't even want to hurt him, and it just came out wrong, like I was blaming him, while he is allowed to have a (stupid) vision about friendship that doesn't fit with mine.
I don't like to have so many people who hate my guts.
I hate, hate, hate when people I was close to change behavior without explaining why, so I try not to do the same to others, but this always bites me in the ass.
This guy who behaved like a friend for a year or so but then disappeared last september doesn't chat with me anymore, doesn't help if he hears that I have a problem, never really helped before, but insists on hugging me every time we meet socially, and the last time I just stepped back and refused the hug.
Then, instead of just leaving it like that, I felt bad for him and I sent him a message, how I didn't feel he was a friend anymore and I didn't feel like hugging him, and now he hates me, deleted me from all his contacts etc etc.
If I hadn't said anything and just kept rejecting his hugs would have been 100 times better, but I felt guilty and I had to send him that bloody message. I didn't even want to hurt him, and it just came out wrong, like I was blaming him, while he is allowed to have a (stupid) vision about friendship that doesn't fit with mine.
I don't like to have so many people who hate my guts.