What tracts or habits of yours do you think put people off?

To get started:

I have no clue about why I (sometimes) put people off, and what part of my character or behavior achieves this effect. (if you know the answer, please be kind and send me a PM, don't shame me here)

So, here we go:

As an hypersensitive person I have trouble talking about daily things for too long, and probably I take life too seriously.

Sometimes I feel I act really strangely, because when I feel people are pulling away I try to adapt and not be needy, but that way I feel like I am blowing hot and cold all the time even if I don't want to.


what about you? part of the exercise is to be honest and think if that is really true.

I get attached very quickly to people and they mostly get very annoyed cus I'm clingy.

I talk too much.

This is just a guess, because I'm not sure why people dislike me, but..... I'm negative sometimes, I'm a little too sensitive and I'm pretty boring.

I draw them in because I do ok socially and then hit the eject button, throwing them away because I can't let anyone get too close. Too many losses in childhood, too much constant change. I can't form bonds with non-family members unless it's a mate.

I smoke ... and I get bored with small talk, drama exhausts me, I get utterly annoyed with catty-ness, and absolutely cant stand gossipy-ness ... if I am around much of any of those I space out and appear to not be listening ;]

My face. I always seem to have a stern expression. :|

If I knew I'd change them. 90% of the time I have next to no idea why people react in certain ways, positive or negative. I sometimes avoid eye-contact and am reluctant to smile due to appearance consciousness.

I cannot communicate easily with people my age (25) because my interests and way of thinking are the traits of a much older person.

I'm too serious, not good with humor and joking repartee. My own versions of humor hardly ever come across as funny....it seems incomprehensible to most people.

Drinking

Sci-Fi said:

I talk too much.

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+1
I tend to do the same.
sometimes while i'm talking I can see it in peoples faces that I've rambled on too long.
I have been getting better at it though and keep things to myself more, although sometimes its not easy.
I tend to feel like a "man of few words" is a man of few thoughts. and it's all I can do to stop myself from elaborating on the topic of the moment.

I'm a naturally shy person with girls. It's something that's apparently very easy for them to pick up on, so indeed that it the main off-putting point of mine

Additionally, hmm I think as far as I know, most people seem to take liking to me as a friend. But I guess don't consider me to be super interesting or fun - so it never really goes past that.

Nevermind tho - I think it's time I second you on that drinking thing Sigma

Using the word stiffy on the first date.

9006 said:

Using the word stiffy on the first date.

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lol I don't think there is anything wrong with that !

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I can only guess but I would say everything !

No idea.

I'm either clingy, or the exact opposite.

From what people tell me, they think its weird that i'm "so nice", go figure.

I like to be left alone for long periods of time. People don't seem to understand that and think I'm weird. No I don't want to text you everyday, no I don't want to hang out every weekend.......

Oh well!

I'm too quiet. In social situations, I tend to only talk if someone talks to me first. Have REAL trouble in starting conversations (even online). Only really show my sense of humour to people I know and feel comfortable with. Tend to express how I feel either too much, or not enough (and whichever I do is never the right one apparently). I can be negative, although I know that comes a lot from the loneliness and rejection. And, since I don't drink or use drugs, don't have a great interest in music, don't have friends or relationships to ***** or talk about, I guess most people just find me pretty boring ....