somber_radiance
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My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for about half a year. Facts alone, things are great. He treats me well. He's emotionally available and expresses his feelings for me. There's little to no drama. He introduces me to family and friends. We've moved into the comfortable phase fairly quickly....and I think maybe he's moved on to the struggle of keeping his own life/self identity (ie before he'd skip or cancel some of his extracurriculars to spend time with me but not anymore after we talked about the importance of having your own life outside the rel).
And I'm trying to keep my life fulfilling without him too but I'm starting to feel bored or dissatisfied with our time together. I enjoy our time together but sometimes leave feeling like I want more or we could have done more. Maybe we stay in too much. Maybe he dominates convos. Maybe he's slacking in effort for our dates.
He's a great guy...really sweet and loving...been there for me and encourages me...he's what I thought I always wanted. And I still want to be with him and only him. So what's the deal with me feeling down? I am very new to the long term dating world (used to have flings and "friends"). So am I just not used to the stability and predictability (no rollercoaster and drama)? Is it just a relationship phase? Is it incompatiblility? Am I being selfish/high maintenance in the attention dept? Is it just stuff that can/need to be talked out?
And I'm trying to keep my life fulfilling without him too but I'm starting to feel bored or dissatisfied with our time together. I enjoy our time together but sometimes leave feeling like I want more or we could have done more. Maybe we stay in too much. Maybe he dominates convos. Maybe he's slacking in effort for our dates.
He's a great guy...really sweet and loving...been there for me and encourages me...he's what I thought I always wanted. And I still want to be with him and only him. So what's the deal with me feeling down? I am very new to the long term dating world (used to have flings and "friends"). So am I just not used to the stability and predictability (no rollercoaster and drama)? Is it just a relationship phase? Is it incompatiblility? Am I being selfish/high maintenance in the attention dept? Is it just stuff that can/need to be talked out?