When was the last time you made a move on someone?

Just starting a thread.

The Nixon Administration.

I played a **** good game of dodgeball.

I remember like it was yesterday, it was june 1996, on a sunday

I'm not sure what qualifies as "making a move" on someone... I think I've done that unintentionally few days ago... I was playing in a poker tournament... There was a woman sitting at the same table I was & we started making a small talk between hands... At one point, we started joking around & I said, "Let me buy you a drink"... Well, if you're familiar with casino scenes, while you're playing a game, in most states in casinos, drinks are pretty much free... She got the joke & when she got her drink, I tipped the waitress... We've been flirting back & forth pretty much the whole time we were sitting at the same table... Then she got moved to another table & at the end, I couldn't find her... I guess she got knocked out soon after moving to another table... Though I didn't put too much thought into it & I was thinking she was pretty much thinking the same thing, harmless fun... Got me thinking though, this is what "meeting & flirting with someone" feels like...

I never have, and I most likely never will. It's just too hilarious to even think about.

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painter said:

I never have, and I most likely never will. It's just too hilarious to even think about.

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This.So much this.

Btw, Larry David f**cking rocks!

Six months ago. To never commit the same mistake again haha

This reminds me of my last relationship. I was friends with this lady for about 6 years first. We always hung out, and after her last breakup with some guy...we hung out a lot afterwards. I guess it helped her recover. Anyways, I'm a somewhat amature musician and she got very into singing. So we started to write songs together, she sang the vocals.....it was so great, natural high.
As time went on, I wasn't sure if she started to hit on me. Plus I'm such an idot in this department, you almost have to hit me on the head. It was sort of funny. She kept getting closer to me while working on writing a song. I'd move away, she'd moved closer (invading my personal space)..then I'd move across the room (everything I could do to get away from her). It was so halirious looking back.....got to the point that she finally kissed me (that was the hit over the head). I'm terrible when people start hitting on me.....as I don't hit on woman....just to polite, and don't want to come across the wrong way.

painter said:

I never have, and I most likely never will. It's just too hilarious to even think about.

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Aww I'm sure you would get further than that but it would probably end like this
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I haven't ever made the first move but I would like to do it one day, I'm just really bad at reading men, I don't know if they see me as a friend or like me. Unless a guy is clearly blatant with his feeling I will NEVER make the first move, I don't need anymore embarrassing moments added too my thoughts just before I go to sleep!

Haha, probably. We really need to go back to the old school (quite literally) methods, where we get our friends to ask the person out for us. Things were much easier back then. Well, in some ways.

A few years back I had a huge crush on this girl in town. A barmaid, friend of a friend. She was so **** adorable and I think she knew I liked her because every time she served me drinks I would go bright red and almost die. Me and my friend were drinking in another bar one night and she walked in with some of her friends. I gave my friend £20 and told him to get me and him a drink while I went to the bathroom. I came back and sat down and everyone was looking at me, my friend grinning like an idiot. He said he bought her a drink from me and I looked up and she had a huge smile on her face and waved, thanking me, as her friends giggled and whispered to each other.
It's a funny feeling to wish the world would just swallow you up right there, or you'd find a lever on your chair that would eject you straight into space, but for nice reasons. THESE HAPPY FEELS ARE TOO MUCH!

I hid for the rest of the night but found her at closing time and asked her name. I almost died again when she told me. Then I ran away, lol.

That's probably the closest I've ever gotten to "making the first move".

Never. Good night lonely people. I shall look for company elsewhere

painter said:

Haha, probably. We really need to go back to the old school (quite literally) methods, where we get our friends to ask the person out for us. Things were much easier back then. Well, in some ways.

A few years back I had a huge crush on this girl in town. A barmaid, friend of a friend. She was so **** adorable and I think she knew I liked her because every time she served me drinks I would go bright red and almost die. Me and my friend were drinking in another bar one night and she walked in with some of her friends. I gave my friend £20 and told him to get me and him a drink while I went to the bathroom. I came back and sat down and everyone was looking at me, my friend grinning like an idiot. He said he bought her a drink from me and I looked up and she had a huge smile on her face and waved, thanking me, as her friends giggled and whispered to each other.
It's a funny feeling to wish the world would just swallow you up right there, or you'd find a lever on your chair that would eject you straight into space, but for nice reasons. THESE HAPPY FEELS ARE TOO MUCH!

I hid for the rest of the night but found her at closing time and asked her name. I almost died again when she told me. Then I ran away, lol.

That's probably the closest I've ever gotten to "making the first move".

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What do you mean old school? My friends still do that it me now. Lol but it never works because they talk to me and come to realise what a weirdo i am.

I know it's easy to say in hindsight but you should have got in there, it seems like that girl was interested in you. From my past experience of hanging around women and being one and observing them most of the time if a girl received a drink from a guy she didn't like she wouldn't have waved but instead would have moved herself and friends to the darkest corner of the club or pub and stay there until drink was completely gone ice included.

That's what I've seen from people watching in the past, I'm not generalising too just all women do this. Joke.

I did flirt with a cool girl with a bird a couple weeks ago... but it didn't go anywhere. Idle comments between people who sometimes see each other around.

Case,
Ha-ha, very funny. Seriously though, I guess I should have been more specific.

Peaches,
Want to elaborate?

sk66rc,
Wait, so was that the first time you flirted with someone? How did you managed to keep the flow of the conversation? Did it all just… naturally happen as you were talking?

Ymir,
Want to elaborate?

dawningday,
I’m really envious of you! I wish I could get simple experiences as those! Don’t worry though, I do know how you feel; I’m also a moron in the dating department, but I think I’m even worse than you, so much to the point that I really don’t even bother in dating anymore.

Littlesecret,
I know what you mean with your last sentence and I this is one of the reasons why I distance myself from people; don’t get the wrong idea though, I still want to be part of a friend group, but it’s so **** difficult and I don’t want to add, and keep, another potential embarrassing moment in my memories.
I did so many while growing up and I can’t get them out of my head. Sometimes, depending on what I see, one randomly pops-up in my head, as a sudden flashback, and, unavoidably, I get sad. I try to cheer myself up though, by thinking that I'm the ONLY one that remembers that; NOBODY else and whether it succeeds or not, it depends on the situation. O, why did they had to stay in my long-term memory?

painter’s radio,
I don’t remember where I read this, but I once saw a question about a guy, in his mid 20s, asking why he ended up without a girlfriend at his age. Most sympathized with the guy, but there was one response in particular that compared the old ways vs. the new ways of how to get a girlfriend. The guy said to the asker that he and many other guys like him were a waste to society. He then shared his experience of how he didn’t spent his time at his house moping about how much life sucked and instead was out getting girlfriends and getting laid, all while he was 14-years-old! How did he accomplish this so easily? Because he didn’t grew up with cell-phones and internet, and if he wanted to talk to a girl, he had to do it directly from a telephone and 9 out of 10 times, the father answered, which was IMPOSSIBLY hard to convince him to allow him to talk with his daughter. He then said that, despite having more ways of communicating nowadays, even guys that are in their late 20s sh*t their pants whenever they’re talking to a girl through texting. Personally, I half-agree with his comment, it depends on the way you grew up, but some guys are just born without confidence; I don’t know at which category I belong in…
Speaking of your experience, if that happened to me, I would very unappreciative about it. It would just add to my embarrassing memories. Also, I really can’t stand the feeling of having dozens of eyes watching me. Since I don’t know how to handle those situations, I just do nothing.

May 2 (Well technically 3 since it was after midnight but I digress...). Kissed a guy I'd had a crush on since February. That was the first time I'd ever made that kind of a first move and it went quite well . Will have to wait until August to see what, if anything will come of it though, because of summer break. Based on the conversations I had with him in the days following the kiss I am quite hopeful.

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What do you mean old school? My friends still do that it me now. Lol but it never works because they talk to me and come to realise what a weirdo i am.

I know it's easy to say in hindsight but you should have got in there, it seems like that girl was interested in you. From my past experience of hanging around women and being one and observing them most of the time if a girl received a drink from a guy she didn't like she wouldn't have waved but instead would have moved herself and friends to the darkest corner of the club or pub and stay there until drink was completely gone ice included.

That's what I've seen from people watching in the past, I'm not generalising too just all women do this. Joke.

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Yeah, perhaps something would have come from it if I'd had the guts to actually ask her out, or even be within 100 yards of her without going into super noob mode but it may have been for the best that nothing happened between us. I wasn't in a very good place at that time of my life, and she seemed so bright and happy and a girl of big ambition. I know, it looks like I'm putting either myself down or her on a pedestal, and perhaps I am, but I also think I'm being realistic about it. I didn't have a lot to offer then in terms of emotional or mental stability so probably best I didn't inflict myself upon her

**** though, she was ******* gorgeous. She could have been hired by world leaders to stop wars with her overwhelming radiance. Haha, cheeze.

I don’t remember where I read this, but I once saw a question about a guy, in his mid 20s, asking why he ended up without a girlfriend at his age. Most sympathized with the guy, but there was one response in particular that compared the old ways vs. the new ways of how to get a girlfriend. The guy said to the asker that he and many other guys like him were a waste to society. He then shared his experience of how he didn’t spent his time at his house moping about how much life sucked and instead was out getting girlfriends and getting laid, all while he was 14-years-old! How did he accomplish this so easily? Because he didn’t grew up with cell-phones and internet, and if he wanted to talk to a girl, he had to do it directly from a telephone and 9 out of 10 times, the father answered, which was IMPOSSIBLY hard to convince him to allow him to talk with his daughter. He then said that, despite having more ways of communicating nowadays, even guys that are in their late 20s sh*t their pants whenever they’re talking to a girl through texting. Personally, I half-agree with his comment, it depends on the way you grew up, but some guys are just born without confidence; I don’t know at which category I belong in…
Speaking of your experience, if that happened to me, I would very unappreciative about it. It would just add to my embarrassing memories. Also, I really can’t stand the feeling of having dozens of eyes watching me. Since I don’t know how to handle those situations, I just do nothing.

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Yeah I didn't have mobiles or internet etc when I was 14 either, and it was just as nerve-wrecking then as it is now. Definitely not born with confidence here! While I think his waste to society comment was shitty (what does this guy do now? How does he contribute to society? By banging hot chix?) he does have a slightly valid point, although back then there were plenty of virgins too you know? While the online world is an easy escape route for people to hide away on, it was mostly created for a reason - people are lonely. So what came first: the internet or the loneliness.

That would make a great title for some *******'s college essay!

Probably once every couple of weeks for me if I think someone is interesting. Never goes anywhere though.

bluedolphin92,
That’s great! If I were you, I would stay hopeful, simply because guys give in pretty easily into relationships.
It’s pretty awesome that your first move went well, I’m sure it’ll boost your confidence very much.
Also, it’s even more awesome that YOU were the one that took the initiative. Why can’t women do that more often!? Save us some of the pressure, ladies!

painter’s radio,
I really don’t give a f*ck about that guy, whether he contributes to society or not.
Well, so what if there were more virgins back then? Nowadays, there are people that are not, but still feel very lonely.
I don’t think it matters whether someone is a virgin or not to a lonely person; the only thing they want is companionship or, at the very least, a purpose of their existence.

No, I don't give a fresia about that guy either. I was just pointing out that he said someone else is a waste to society, when he probably doesn't contribute greatly to it either.
And I didn't say there were more virgins back then, nor did I imply it was anything to be ashamed of. Simply saying that just because times were different (lack of internet) doesn't mean everyone had the swagger that he had, and I used being a virgin as, well, I got it from his post. He is saying the guy is a loser for never having had a girlfriend, and blaming it on technology. I'm saying there have been people without girlfriends and boyfriends since before the internet was commonplace.

I might have misunderstood the purpose of your last post a bit, or you have mine.

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Littlesecret,
I know what you mean with your last sentence and I this is one of the reasons why I distance myself from people; don’t get the wrong idea though, I still want to be part of a friend group, but it’s so **** difficult and I don’t want to add, and keep, another potential embarrassing moment in my memories.
I did so many while growing up and I can’t get them out of my head. Sometimes, depending on what I see, one randomly pops-up in my head, as a sudden flashback, and, unavoidably, I get sad. I try to cheer myself up though, by thinking that I'm the ONLY one that remembers that; NOBODY else and whether it succeeds or not, it depends on the situation. O, why did they had to stay in my long-term memory?

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I do exactly the same thing too, I could be having a great time say my friends are over or I'm walking the dog, cleaning the oven(this isn't a great time) then suddenly embarrassing flashbacks from moments in my life come into my head. Some of them make me literally shudder, and I have to just reassure myself that no one can remember it and it wasn't that embarrassing, but people can remember and they were embarrassing!
I think it stays in long-term memory so it's a reminder on how not to embarrass yourself in the future, funny how those flashback never pop up just before you do something embarrassing again but instead comes up when your all comfy in bed just on the brink of sleep, so that your last thought can be 'why do you do these things and what's wrong with you?'.