Pike Creek
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Hi ALL,
I'm new here. I'm an older woman in a relationship with a younger man. I'm 46, he's 26. Our age seems to make no difference, at least I think so, that's why I'm asking opinions. He's an older soul...not into the typical 20-year old stuff that others are into. He loves his work, he likes old movies, jazz music, he's a homebody, we share the same hobbies, sense of humour, family values and we've lived together for a year and a half.
But lately when I try to have discussions, he attacks me, always has to one-up me...like, just a silly example...he dumped his tools on my desk. I asked him not to do that because it disrupts my work, he comes right back by saying I disrupted his closet by putting a box in it. Silly isn't it?
But my complaint was dismissed. I feel misunderstood and ignored. He spends more and more time alone in his office, not just working, but napping and watching tv...my time alone has increased drastically and I'm terribly lonely.
I feel like I've taken the role of mother to a brat or something...I can't even talk to him anymore, share my feelings because he gets so defensive, starts to accuse me of something else to put the focus on him and I'm left feeling empty and devalued. I'm at my wits end.
Do you think he's trying to get me to do the "dirty work" and tell him to get the hell out of my life? He keeps saying we're soul mates...I don't get it.
Of course there is a lot more to my story but long posts can be tedious.
Any thoughts?
I'm new here. I'm an older woman in a relationship with a younger man. I'm 46, he's 26. Our age seems to make no difference, at least I think so, that's why I'm asking opinions. He's an older soul...not into the typical 20-year old stuff that others are into. He loves his work, he likes old movies, jazz music, he's a homebody, we share the same hobbies, sense of humour, family values and we've lived together for a year and a half.
But lately when I try to have discussions, he attacks me, always has to one-up me...like, just a silly example...he dumped his tools on my desk. I asked him not to do that because it disrupts my work, he comes right back by saying I disrupted his closet by putting a box in it. Silly isn't it?
But my complaint was dismissed. I feel misunderstood and ignored. He spends more and more time alone in his office, not just working, but napping and watching tv...my time alone has increased drastically and I'm terribly lonely.
I feel like I've taken the role of mother to a brat or something...I can't even talk to him anymore, share my feelings because he gets so defensive, starts to accuse me of something else to put the focus on him and I'm left feeling empty and devalued. I'm at my wits end.
Do you think he's trying to get me to do the "dirty work" and tell him to get the hell out of my life? He keeps saying we're soul mates...I don't get it.
Of course there is a lot more to my story but long posts can be tedious.
Any thoughts?