Welp, another year is here and I've once again worked up the force of will to to make another (likely futile) attempt to form relationships outside of my immediate family again. I was hoping somebody here might have some advice on a few issues I've had in the past.
1. People have told me that the best way to make friends is by joining clubs, but I've had a few problems in the past. First, I don't have...deep interests. What I mean to say is, I like things like Anime, Video Games, and Music, but I like very specific and sometimes obscure examples for each. In Video Games, for instance, I don't particularly care Shooters or Nintendo Game, I like Bioware RPGs and strategy games. A Video Game club would likely be more generalized, and to relate to anybody there I'd probably have to have a wide knowledge of everything Video Games. I don't know, should I just pick a specific interest and then research it to the point that I know everything about it? Should I fake interest in mainstream thiings so that I can talk to people?
2. I'm in my senior year of College ( I know, how pathetic is that, a 21 year old without any friends ) and I'm wondering if I should join a club at school even though I'm only going to be there for a year longer. Should I just stick to outside clubs, even if they're harder to find?
3. Is it a good idea to join a club based on a hobby you don't know much about, but would like to know more about? For instance, I've thought about joining a local hiking club, because I enjoy hiking around the mountains, but I'm far from an outdoors man with intimate knowledge of nature and such.
4. After you join a club, where do you go from there? Two years ago I joined a reading club on my campus and, while I liked the group and they seemed to like me okay, I never made any friends there. Typically I'd spend the meetings sitting quietly at the table, occasionally making jokes at opportune moments, which usually got a good laugh.
1. People have told me that the best way to make friends is by joining clubs, but I've had a few problems in the past. First, I don't have...deep interests. What I mean to say is, I like things like Anime, Video Games, and Music, but I like very specific and sometimes obscure examples for each. In Video Games, for instance, I don't particularly care Shooters or Nintendo Game, I like Bioware RPGs and strategy games. A Video Game club would likely be more generalized, and to relate to anybody there I'd probably have to have a wide knowledge of everything Video Games. I don't know, should I just pick a specific interest and then research it to the point that I know everything about it? Should I fake interest in mainstream thiings so that I can talk to people?
2. I'm in my senior year of College ( I know, how pathetic is that, a 21 year old without any friends ) and I'm wondering if I should join a club at school even though I'm only going to be there for a year longer. Should I just stick to outside clubs, even if they're harder to find?
3. Is it a good idea to join a club based on a hobby you don't know much about, but would like to know more about? For instance, I've thought about joining a local hiking club, because I enjoy hiking around the mountains, but I'm far from an outdoors man with intimate knowledge of nature and such.
4. After you join a club, where do you go from there? Two years ago I joined a reading club on my campus and, while I liked the group and they seemed to like me okay, I never made any friends there. Typically I'd spend the meetings sitting quietly at the table, occasionally making jokes at opportune moments, which usually got a good laugh.