This is my first official thread. I am Lucia and I am a lonely sad little person. My past is full of bullying and abuse even from my own relatives. I received physical and psychological abuse from my older brother. My parents did nothing to help me from him, many times they didn't believe all the things he did to me. They would always show more love and admiration towards him. My mother once said that she genuinely preferred my brother over me. I grew up being described as useless and ugly. It did wonders for my self esteem. People always call me ugly. They even ask me if I am a tranny, even strangers. All this made me shy. I don't feel comfortable meeting new people and have very few friends. The few friends I have, apparently they never want to do fun things with me. I love traveling but I do it on my own most of the time. It has always been like this, me being alone. I hate my birthdays, they are always so depressing. Full of Facebook greetings but not one person goes to my celebration (if I make one). I am almost 30 and feel I threw my youth and better years away. I developed alcohol abuse and gained 15 kg in 2 years, making me feel even uglier. I've had un satisfying romantic relationships, sometimes I feel I'll end up alone. I want to leave the heavy drinking, but it is hard. Alcohol brings me problems but brings me so much joy, not something I get on a daily basis. I have avoid it on certain nights, but I just end up crying and feeling like I am going crazy. Then I prefer to drink than go through that. I wake up the next day with a nasty bitter taste in my mouth left by alcohol and rubbish all over the place, since I order junk food when drinking (another nasty addiction). I feel full of regrets, get depressed and the cycle goes on. This is my sick sad life. I wish I had a nice group of friends to do fun stuff with, a boyfriend to love and loves me back and a healthy lifestyle. I just don't know where to begin. I have a very low self esteem and I am to shy. I even struggle to make eye contact. I am afraid of meeting new people and ask me, or think, that I look like a man. New people often see me as quite and boring, with no good conversation. What most people find funny,I don't, and vice versa. Does anyone feel this way?