ardour
Well known loser
I wonder if people can offer some advice, women as well maybe.
It’s regarding someone at work and in my courses that I’ve known for about 2 years, speaking maybe once a week. We got along well and she’s been pretty friendly. We had a long conversation over facebook about a month ago and it turned out she catches the same train, asked what time I left work and suggested we could catch it together. I suggested we could get something to eat on the way and she seemed really enthusiastic (“we could get dinner or a drink after work”) I’d been busy and only managed to meet her once since then (no dinner or drinks), so I thought I’d arrange it.
Something must have changed in the interim because it’s gone from “dinner and a drink” to her suggesting a “a quick drink” and emphasizing over and over again how she can’t stay long. Still polite and talkative when I messaged her, but the last couple of times we spoke got that glazed over, cooled off, slightly annoyed manner indicating things had run their course and she was sick of me. I know that look well by now.
I’m thinking, if it’s the same impression tomorrow, I might suggest we skip the drink and go straight to the train. It doesn’t seem to matter to her either way now.
I don’t want to go through the motions with someone who clearly just wants to get it over with. But then I don’t want to seem like some manipulative manbaby trying a guilt-trip ploy either, so it's an awkward situation.
It’s regarding someone at work and in my courses that I’ve known for about 2 years, speaking maybe once a week. We got along well and she’s been pretty friendly. We had a long conversation over facebook about a month ago and it turned out she catches the same train, asked what time I left work and suggested we could catch it together. I suggested we could get something to eat on the way and she seemed really enthusiastic (“we could get dinner or a drink after work”) I’d been busy and only managed to meet her once since then (no dinner or drinks), so I thought I’d arrange it.
Something must have changed in the interim because it’s gone from “dinner and a drink” to her suggesting a “a quick drink” and emphasizing over and over again how she can’t stay long. Still polite and talkative when I messaged her, but the last couple of times we spoke got that glazed over, cooled off, slightly annoyed manner indicating things had run their course and she was sick of me. I know that look well by now.
I’m thinking, if it’s the same impression tomorrow, I might suggest we skip the drink and go straight to the train. It doesn’t seem to matter to her either way now.
I don’t want to go through the motions with someone who clearly just wants to get it over with. But then I don’t want to seem like some manipulative manbaby trying a guilt-trip ploy either, so it's an awkward situation.