Thomas Crystalstick
Member
Hi. I'm a 25-year-old male from Virginia.
I've been a very lonely person for some time now, probably about 5 years, and it began near the end of my program at college. One reason I find this forum appealing is that for 5 years I have been unable to really TALK about this with my [few] friends and family; any time I have ever vocalized my feelings of loneliness it has been accompanied by vulnerability, humiliation, and a possible lack of understanding from the other party ("Oh, well, you need to get out more").
Getting out more is not the problem, as I can be in a room filled with lively, laughing people and feel a certain chill, a certain emptiness, a disconnect. So... I think I'm lonely because I have an extreme difficulty in connecting emotionally with other people. Or because I don't know how yet. Or because I'm not good at using whatever "connecting" skills I have. Or because it's possible that people find me cold, boring, unappealing, arrogant, overly-sensitive, withdrawn, or any other socially undesirable characteristic.
I overly analyze myself and that's not exactly something enjoyable when pervasive loneliness is crushing me. Hopefully I'll be able to talk with some other people on here and perhaps come to some kind of catharsis or realization on this problem that is truly a hell to live with.
Much love.
I've been a very lonely person for some time now, probably about 5 years, and it began near the end of my program at college. One reason I find this forum appealing is that for 5 years I have been unable to really TALK about this with my [few] friends and family; any time I have ever vocalized my feelings of loneliness it has been accompanied by vulnerability, humiliation, and a possible lack of understanding from the other party ("Oh, well, you need to get out more").
Getting out more is not the problem, as I can be in a room filled with lively, laughing people and feel a certain chill, a certain emptiness, a disconnect. So... I think I'm lonely because I have an extreme difficulty in connecting emotionally with other people. Or because I don't know how yet. Or because I'm not good at using whatever "connecting" skills I have. Or because it's possible that people find me cold, boring, unappealing, arrogant, overly-sensitive, withdrawn, or any other socially undesirable characteristic.
I overly analyze myself and that's not exactly something enjoyable when pervasive loneliness is crushing me. Hopefully I'll be able to talk with some other people on here and perhaps come to some kind of catharsis or realization on this problem that is truly a hell to live with.
Much love.
*hug*
