Alex said:
But I have felt like this like a year, and its happened with the other girls I have been obsessed with, I ******* hate them.
If you let me play armchair psychologist for a second, I'd guess that your resentment is because your feelings or obsessions weren't reciprocated, am I right?
Do any of these girls know about your feelings for them?
If not, then really your hate is
seriously misplaced. Women are no more mind-readers than men are.
If some of the girls were aware of your feelings and then rejected you before even starting a relationship, then resentment is perfectly normal... for a time. It should NOT grow over the course of a year, feeding into what you have called an "obsession."
If you were dating someone and then she rejected you, again, resentment is normal and can take a while to go away, particularly if you feel wronged and are unattached while they go on their merry way dating others.
In your current situation with this one flat-mate, perhaps the best idea is to remove yourself from the equation,
ie move out. Out of sight, out of mind. Or at least you can spare yourself listening to them giggling and flirting and whatever else they may be doing.
I'm going to look at it from the girl's position: If I found out that a housemate of mine had had a secret crush on me but never asked me out, and was then actively hostile toward me, I'd be pissed and possibly scared depending on who he was and what he was doing.
So I'm a "******* *****" because I have a boyfriend and am not dating my housemate even though I never knew that he fancied me?
That's insane.