So Im in my early 30s now. Im an attractive guy. I stay in great shape. I dont drink or use drugs. In college and high school, I had several serious gfs and went on dates quite often, with lots of girls. Up until my late 20s, I dated pretty frequently, and last year broke up with the girl who was probably my most serious gf to date. It was torture losing her. Its a year later, and I am over her. Ive moved on. BUT, something has happened.
I dont know what happened.. but my self esteem has gone to the crapper. Sure, I still think Im a smart, attractive guy, but since my break up, I dont believe anyone else wants me.
For example, my best friend from college, who i trust fully wants to hook me up with one her of co workers. I saw the girls photos and she is very hot, and she is a decent, well put together girl. But I told my friend no... I cant meet her.
Why?
Because I am convinced she wont like me. One problem is that I dont make as much money these days as I used to, but in this economy it happens. I am SO scared to get involved with a girl, bc Im scared I dont make enough money for her. I have it in my head that ALL women want a guy who is loaded, and would shun a guy who made less or equal to her. Its like ever since my break up, I think the WORST CASE SCENARIO will pan out with all potential mates. I know its irrational, but whenever anyone mentions dating or setting me up, I get physically ill.
And to be honest, now.. all my friends basically are married w. kids and have nice homes. I live in my old apt. building still. Making mediocre money. I just cant believe any woman will be happy with me, or wouldnt leave me for the first guy who made 100K per yr who walked up to her she'd leave me for him.
I stay home all alone now, I wont even leave the house. Life is boring and miserable for me. 30 and no direction or anyone to share life with.
I dont know what happened.. but my self esteem has gone to the crapper. Sure, I still think Im a smart, attractive guy, but since my break up, I dont believe anyone else wants me.
For example, my best friend from college, who i trust fully wants to hook me up with one her of co workers. I saw the girls photos and she is very hot, and she is a decent, well put together girl. But I told my friend no... I cant meet her.
Why?
Because I am convinced she wont like me. One problem is that I dont make as much money these days as I used to, but in this economy it happens. I am SO scared to get involved with a girl, bc Im scared I dont make enough money for her. I have it in my head that ALL women want a guy who is loaded, and would shun a guy who made less or equal to her. Its like ever since my break up, I think the WORST CASE SCENARIO will pan out with all potential mates. I know its irrational, but whenever anyone mentions dating or setting me up, I get physically ill.
And to be honest, now.. all my friends basically are married w. kids and have nice homes. I live in my old apt. building still. Making mediocre money. I just cant believe any woman will be happy with me, or wouldnt leave me for the first guy who made 100K per yr who walked up to her she'd leave me for him.
I stay home all alone now, I wont even leave the house. Life is boring and miserable for me. 30 and no direction or anyone to share life with.