I’m 21 and still a member of the No Boyfriend since Birth Society.

I’ve been close with several guys, but never intimate. All were just mere flirtatious encounters… some were courtships that only last in a really short span of time. All seemed like they were all just ‘not for keeps’.

I’ve devoted my time studying (though I’m not close to a nerd for that matter) and preparing on my career path for 15 years…. I’ve gained friends through time, some of them I already lost contact with, and some of them I speak to every once in a while.

And a lot of them bugs me about getting a ‘special someone’ – as if it’s just like a comfort food that can be easily bought in an ice cream parlor or a candy store.

It’s not much of a concern to me before, but now it really gets too disturbing…It made me paranoid as days pass and more and more people are asking me why am I still ‘single’. Which leaves me disturbed as hell whether I looked too miserable alone or I’m just too Beautiful(haha!) to be one of the few Singles who live in the a world full of couples.

I’m 21, finished studying and all, and somehow trying to get a good jumpstart for my career…I hate the idea of being left in isolation, but then I guess that’s what I am now.

Single and alone.

Should I be distressed about my situation? If you were in my shoes, what would you feel? And what should I do to resolve this? Should I try finding love?

Sounds to me like your a young beautiful and intelligent women with the world at your feet. Being independent witch you are is not pathetic.

Of course if love comes your way then embrace it. But in tell that time comes just try to enjoy where your at and doing what you do.

Hi Callistra and welcome
I am, in a way in your shoes. While I didn't start studying for my life career at seven years old like you did, I did start a career. Doing that meant setting priorities. That means being lonely sometimes. I'd say keep your eyes on the prize.

You are 21 and have your whole life ahead of you. You finished your degree and nothings wrong with focusing on the career you have chosen. Hopefully you like it I have a therory. I will share it with you.

My theory about my life is that if I stay true to myself and continue on my path that the man who is to be with me will come into my life.
Besides, you have to be ready to start a relationship and it sounds like you aren't. And that's ok. Don't ever let anyone tell you it isn't.
You will know when the time is right.

im 17 & this may sound pathetic but ive only been in a few real relationships my whole life & ive gotten hurt A LOT....im just trying to find the right one now n have higher expectations on how they treat me.
ive always heard theres a perfect someone out there for everyone, but idk if I believe that anymore....theres this boy i really really like right now and i think hes perfect but he only likes me as a friend. sometimes even if i have friends with me, i still feel lonely bc i really want that special someone & most of my friends do.

nobody can answer the last few questions but yourself. only you can decide if you want to be with someone. do you find yourself longing for something more than friendship? someone to cuddle up with? (i know i am!)

but about the title question, no no no. if that is true then there must be billions of pathetic creatures... from what i know, my age group(16-25) tends to comprise of more single than partnered people.

although personally i HATE being single, and will only ever be happy with a partner.

i know how you feel. im lonely without a girlfriend, no matter how many friends i have.

The only people at 21 who have found their "soulmate" accidentally got pregnant during prom.

No, please don't feel distressed. It's far more important to have the right person in your life, than to have someone just for the sake of having someone.

lol!
true, this.

i kno, like some ppl say to enjoy ur friends in high school and not worry about boyfriends/girlfriends, but i think a lot of ppl still feels lonely without one & i havent been kissed in quite a while now =(