Hello all,

I have just become a member and this is my very 1st post on the forum.

To begin with,I am a very lonely man!

I am an international flight attendant by proffesion and I obviously have to deal with alot of different people from all walks of life.

I have been forced to stay indoors (which I always do) due to all the harrasment I go thru on a daily basis because of where I come from and my skin color.I am not a bad looking human and I am a friendly person by nature,however certain comments/attitudes/looks and facial expressions I get to deal with from many have restricted me either to my hotel room when on flights overseas or just at home,leaving me so missarably lonely.

my Isolation from the rest of the world have grown so severe,that I carry my own food,when I travel,so that I dont need to get out of the hotel to a restaurant.

Is skin color a big problem to many? am I so unwelcomed in this world?

You mean race or little sun or what?

yes,I mean the "race"..

Hi SD,

I just read your bio information with location, and I understand what you're talking about now, and can definitely see your point, and it's really sad that it's gotten to be that way. I can't even imagine what you go through welcoming passengers into the plane. However, I will say welcome to the site, and having an international airport not so far from here (actually three withing 1 1/2 hours away) I say that I would definitely welcome you to port, as would many others on this site.

Southern, I'm sorry that your race and skin tone has caused you such pain.

It's not your fault.

Many people are close-minded. They REALLY need a wake up call!

PS Do you live in India? I noted there that skin tone is quite important.

First of all welcome to our site. I can relate to how you feel. I'm of East Indian descent and I'm medium brown in complexion. The sad part is I may be treated negatively by people of a similar skin colour or darker than myself, while they treat people with lighter complexions like royalty.

Actually Lonelygirl, many people in the East Indian diaspora have that same level of closed-mindedness about skin colour although they were born and grew up in the Western world so it's not endemic to India alone.

I find it very sickening when people judge others by skin colour alone.

I agree, Cooljohn. It's bizarre and sad.

These same people INSIST that they are not brainwashed by western standards of beauty.

Hmm who knows? All races have traditionally valued light skin as it indicates royalty or no need to work outside in the sun, right?

I agree w/ both lonelygirl and cooljohn.

but you have to remember this:
for every mean-spirited racist out there, there are two people who will support you.
The world is full of colors. Racists are people who just see in black and white.

Wasn't there some racial aspects to India's caste system? Maybe I'm mistaken, but, I believe there were. It is typical in many societies for paler skins to be seen as more beautiful. I know that's the case in many East-Asian countries, and it's been like that waaay before they encountered Caucasian people.

Thanks for all the replies and support....however I must say I have not had any problems travelling to or in India at all.most of the time,its the English speaking western world,that has made me feel Isolated....

I recently talked to a eastern European girl,who works with me.she was in similar situation as I am.she says when she speaks English,native speakers treat her differently due to her accent....she says she has been made to feel what she calls "stupid".

but then again,listening to most of your comments written here,it is also a consolation that not all are the same.

I thank u all for your input!