This is turning into a competition of who can write the longest post, I lost interest and got a head ache at page 2. and now it's turned into a migraine!

This post was last modified: 07-28-2007 11:06 AM by Blue Sky.

OMG, you guys.. You're getting so far into this, it's getting to be a little tiring... No one has THE answer to our problems, situations, fears or desires. Anyone who thinks they do, is delusional. We're all trying to make the most of our lives with what we've been dealt. And thus far, all I see in this thread is a lot of talk that is quite directionless.

"Why on earth do You think that i don't try to find out as much as possible about a person and his or her situation before i start giving them advice?" Well, Robin, I have noted that such does not seem to be the norm around here. And you have not supported my own calls for delving more seriously. Instead, you've urged me to give more strokes! You've also defended what I have criticized as unthinking trite clichéd advice. So, there is how I might have drawn the impression. Be all that as it may..

And again, my idea of getting personal consists of question and intention in detail, not soothing strokes.

And as for anything that I may have failed adequately to explain, have you any specific questions? If not, then that in and of itself constitutes another piece of evidence that might draw me to the perception of you, whereof you now so object.

"The only obstacles that we can fix via the internet ARE psychiatric!"

Respectfully, sir, I still disagree, for my reasons as stated, the alternatives that I have already suggested. Questions?

And I also disagree with your therapeutic modality, to wit: motivational speaking, violating as it does, the injunction against suggestion. Questions?

And as for your "completely impersonal advices on "this is how i did it so You should to"," my criticism thereof also, likewise stands. To wit: that it is blithe, ignorant, as I have said, uncurious, and will never fit everyone because we are all different (yes, Queen Cleocatra). Again, another reason why I tend towards exactly the impression of you that you now take such excerption, Robin.


"I also accept You as You are; i even applaud You for trying to do something which nobody here seem to have tried before to improve the assistance we can give, and with so much force." Thank you, Robin, that is most gracious. Put you money where your mouth is, and participate. That would help.

And indeed no, openness and collaboration is hardly the same thing as infantile helplessness! There's a fine line between self reliance and self isolation. Moreover, rising to undrestand and take on external challenges can hardly be equated with passive irresponsibility!

Whoa, you both need to take a step back and look at your postings. You sound arrogant and full of yourselves. And I for one don't appreciate it. I don't know why either of you are so intent on pushing your ideals onto the rest of us. Whatever your intentions are, or were, you're not being helpful, you're beginning to sound very redunant and trite. So, go ahead, flame me if it'll make you feel better..

Aaron and Robin

The only progress that you two have made here is that you have DESTROYED Elaeagnus's thread called successs stories. If you can take sometime from your precious dedate and read her original post. This thread was meant for members to come to in the future and write about how this forum has helped them with there lives and take a look at what you have done to it!!

Yes, I'd have to agree. You both have destroyed what was originally a positive and hope-filled thread. Maybe you should take your debate into a more private arena.

Bah, humbug!

To get back to the original intent of the thread before it is closed:

I am not a member, but I have been coming to this site since January and spending time on this site reading about the experiences of others and all the good advice has helped me very much. I of course am still very lonely, but I know that I am now better able to deal with it because of the perspective on loneliness that this site has given me. I wish to thank all the good people on this site, and I want you to know that you have helped me in ways that you will never know.

Particular thanks goes to Bjarne for starting and maintaining this excellent forum.

I wonder if it ever would end if none of us had the respect to stop intruding this thread!
Well, i tried. Sorry for keeping these posts up for so long, folks. They're gone now.

Great! Ny responses now stand without context!