I don't know about any of the rest of you, but if I stop thinking about finding love it just ends up passing me by. I stopped thinking about it for many, many years and I ended up here, lonely and pissed off.

Love does not find me...I have to look for it. That's nice that the rest of you can just sit and let it come to you. I wish I had that option, but a few of us actually have to try a little harder when we want something in our life that matters.

This isn't a fairy tale where everything works out perfectly in the end, regardless of what we do...at least for me. Nothing good in my life has ever just fallen from the sky and into my lap...NOTHING...

Don't live your life thinking things will get better without your participation. I am living proof to the fact that it doesn't work that way. Please don't make my mistakes.

I don't know about any of the rest of you, but if I stop thinking about finding love it just ends up passing me by. I stopped thinking about it for many, many years and I ended up here, lonely and pissed off.

Love does not find me...I have to look for it. That's nice that the rest of you can just sit and let it come to you. I wish I had that option, but a few of us actually have to try a little harder when we want something in our life that matters.

This isn't a fairy tale where everything works out perfectly in the end, regardless of what we do...at least for me. Nothing good in my life has ever just fallen from the sky and into my lap...NOTHING...

Don't live your life thinking things will get better without your participation. I am living proof to the fact that it doesn't work that way. Please don't make my mistakes.

this, coming from the man who calls online dating a waste of time.

your advice is sound. start following it.

If you'd met some of the people I met through online dating, you'd know why I dubbed it a waste of time. I tried, which is more than I can say for some people. Knowing when something doesn't work for you is also a big part of life.

I am. What's your excuse?

I've decided to take the scientific approach to meeting women. What is it that they like? Could it be something completely different? Why do skinny white boys sometimes date models? (not that i'm talking about me lol. sarcasm.) We can build dams, rocketships and hydrogen cars but we are stuck with the 16-yr old mentality when it comes to women.
(feminists look away) I think women are more the same than different when it comes to attraction. Just as men are too...

Anyway I'm not intending to make a panacea to fix everyone's problems. A few of us might remember AaronAgassi, who had a similar idea but his posts were too long-winded and confusing to explain it.

iwasaloverb4thiswar - it's a lifestyle? haha hows the house coming along?

My excuse for...what, exactly?

Skip it...

Hi JustLost,
I tried online dating, too. I went out with loads of guys...lol I guess it's just another tool to get to know people you might otherwise not meet. It gives you more options. I, for the most, part enjoyed it
It does have it's draw backs. Some of them just want to jump in your pants...lol It does make for an awkward first date. Then some of them want to kiss you on the mouth. It's like hey, buddy, I'm not swapping spit with anybody I don't know...lol How do I know where your mouths been in the last 24 hours?
Sorry your experience wasn't a good one. I think when I have time to date and meet people again, I'm going to look around at different volunteer organizations and clubs that interest me.

I think it will prove more fruitful. That way, I can watch someone (not in a creepy stalker kind of way....lol) and see how they are. I'm old fashioned in a lot of ways. Don't like rushing into anything serious.

Maybe we should have a thread on "dates gone wrong"...lol What do you think?

Naleena

This post was last modified: 06-21-2008 01:19 AM by Naleena.

Hi JustLost,
I tried online dating, too. I went out with loads of guys...lol I guess it's just another tool to get to know people you might otherwise not meet. It gives you more options. I, for the most, part enjoyed it

For me, it's a useless tool. There's only so many times a person can bang their head against a concrete wall before they're forced to admit that it hurts. If I was attractive, rich or halfway interesting I might have had better luck. Unfortunately I am none of these things and that makes it EXTREMELY difficult.

There's a lot of that. This also makes it difficult for those of us who are legitimately looking for someone special.

I have lots of horror stories. Although I'm not sure if anyone would be interested in hearing them. To be honest, I'm not even sure I want to hear them again.

OMG ROFLMAO!! I couldn't have said it any better!!!!!!!! Does that make a cynical bastard too??

I will amend this by saying that you can't meet anyone if you're not willing to put yourself out there so that you have the OPPORTUNITY to meet someone. And by putting yourself "out there" you will invariably subject yourself to rejection, heartache and just plain weirdness. But, you still have the opportunity to find what you're looking for. I guess some of us, like zraskolnikov and myself, have just had a different kind of experience with relationships. Salute!

This post was last modified: 06-21-2008 08:42 AM by EveWasFramed.

Bloody hell, I nearly spewed the water I was drinking as I read this! I'm still chuckling. I pitty the women in your area, if that's what they're into, dude. Maybe you should consider relocating.