I had a sudden realisation a couple of days ago which shut me up for the rest of the night. I honestly do not believe that I will ever be in another relationship. I think I will die alone. The things I hate about humans are also the things that make us human. Not only can I not imagine the type of man who might compliment my life, but I can't even imagine a scenario where I might meet this type of man.

Here's a scenerio your part of a forum on the net and you meet this awesome guy and he says hi to you

Hi diamond dancer how are you?

Sorry if that was to forward DD

I came to the samr realization a while ago also. But whats even scarier is spending your entire life with someone and then they die first. Honestly I dont know the pros and cons and which you would prefer. But the end of life thoughts become more scarier then the future ones.

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awh that is so cute...

(hushed voice)
DD:talk to him
TalosNB:Good Luck

btw I have that realization all the time..it's not that I don't like people I just really doubt that I will find what I'm looking for. It's a bit scary though. I'm okay on my own, but I'd be lying if I said that I don't want a really safe, till-death-do-us-part, strong relationahip.

On one hand it seems like bad luck that I haven't found that yet; but on the other it just seems that something is wrong with me.. it's prolly the second case lol (usually is).. ah well.. alone is not the worst thing in the world.. life can be enjoyed single.. lol!

You know it's true that both being single and being in a relationship are gifts. Yea really good realtionship have a bit of an edge over being alone.. but once you don't waste it being single can also be quite pleasing.

Okay ..yea I know you'll feel like you'll will be alone forever; I feel this as well. But question; do want to be alone forever? If the answer is no.. my advice is to give people and realtionships a fair chance even when you feel like locking yourself in a dungoen(can't spell). Not that you'll do this... but it's a thing that I find with people ..

I have a friend.. A REALLY GOOD friend. She is the most social person I know. I swear on my life if I didnt know her; more than half the people I know now; I would never have met. Okay so this girl; she is VERY COMPLICATED.. at first. She pretends to be a horrible person when you are getting to know her.. she flirts a lot, can NOT go 24 hours without alcohol. I know I'm tarnishing her rep but she sleeps with married people.. and enjoys it (okay.. i'm sorry but it's true).. she also is very depressed (but if you met her you'd think she is on extra levels of prozac..n you'd be right).

Okay POINT. This girl.. I mean I can't describe how she paints herself as a horrible person; she would out right say that she would never be with a guy who can't afford to take her on vacations n stuff.. but do you know she is one of the best people I know. You'd never see it at frist.. but after being her friend for as long as I have.. I have seen that girl sacrific levels of her pride just not to hurt someone she doesn't even know.. in ways.. I mean I have seen her do some thing that are saintly.

Even though she says she's a bitch; she's actually a sweetheart.. who does half to stuff she does cause she is afraid of herself. I mean yea she lies to men, and cheats all the time and stuff; but the guys she chooses are always bastards.. n though she says she's with them for money.. part of her isn't with someone better cause she thinks that she'll hurt someone better.

This sweet guy liked her.. she didn't like him. Now this guy has money (lots of money) but he doesnt flaunt it.. but she knew anyway. She told him that she wouldn't be with someone like him because she only dates rich guys who drive better cars. You know she told him this to spare his feelings.. cause really she just didn't like him. For all the gold-digging-bitch she claims to be.. (note she had to paint herself as a gold-digger just to get him not to like her. When she knew he had money.. we both knew.). When asked seriously why she didnt like someone nice who has more money than the idiots she messes with she say 'I don't know; he's too nice! I think I'd hurt him...'

So you see when you get to know people; we surprise you.. we arent that great; none of us. But we arent that bad either; none of us.

By the way there are lots of other reasons why I say that friend is a good person. Really she is; her life has just be screwed up.. she's also not a gold-digger.. she's just quite honest.. and to her everyone wants something for personal gain.. so she's not different from anyone else. N she is right.. what she wants just happens to make her unhealthy.. but it's all she knows.. n

Like she's someone who likes not to be cheated hence she plays the safe side of the field.. where she cheats.. She may have trust issuses (maybe..) okay bye. yea

Thanx jales, i think you will find someone because all the people that best suite you are always the hardest to find, sometimes you think its nigh on impossible but you just have to keep looking well thats atleast the hope i cling to to make myself feel better and stop myself from thinking i will die alone

I don't know man, this thread really seems kinda over my head. I'm just so resigned to the fact that I'm going to be a hermit for the rest of my life that I never put any thought into what I'd be looking for in a woman. I guess I'd go with the first girl who shows some kind of interest in me...which is admittedly a bad idea. That leaves me open to all sorts of ways I could be taken advantage of. Ever read that book The Giving Tree when you were little? If I wound up marrying somebody who would perpetually cheat on me and take advantage of me in all sorts of other ways I probably wouldn't say anything out of fear of being alone forever.

But I must admit that I'm incredibly intimidated and put off in general by women who look like their out of a magazine or something. I mean, if you're looking for a plastic woman, than why not just buy a really life-like love doll? I find it kind of diffiicult to respect people who, due to their beauty, feel that they can just walk all over people and be incredibly lame. Sure they're hot, but they have no character. Looks have got to be on the very bottom of my list of traits I'm looking for in a person. Actually, I think what I would find most desirable in a woman is somebody who shares similar problems as me: depression, social anxiety, lonliness, etc. Those are the aspects of life I have the most expertise in, so if anybody was capable of really relating to me, they'd have to be well versed in these things as well.

This post was last modified: 12-31-2007 12:36 PM by An archist.

No and yes. I don't ask for much when it comes to materials things but I won't settle when it comes to love. Dating is another story, which is why it's called dating. I feel if I don't gel with the person I can just move on and the most that might happen is a bruised ego.