While I know this forum is about all kinds of loneliness, I have noticed a lot of loneliness related to not having a significant other or having been in a relationship that wasn't with the right person.

I read once that it helps to make a list of qualities that you want in a significant other and some believe that by doing so, you draw that type of person to you.

I was wondering what qualities are most important to you in a "soul mate." You can share as many as you like and try to put them in order please. : )

In my opinion I would want my partner to be kind and considerate, able to think for themselves, have friends that they can share their life with...above all though it is very simple.

All I want from someone is for them to love me as much as I would love them.

I want my significant other to be interesting and not boring and to have a sense of adventure >_<


he doesn't.

I would love to have some1 understand me. I want to be held and squeezed, reassured. I want a strength, some1 to be my tree when the wind blows and yet offer me the softnees of the canopy when I need affection and attention. A sense of humor is a must. There are more insignificant things, but these would be my deepest desires in a partner.

Similarity, someone just like myself.

my thoughts exactly..

Wouldn't that get boring? Not that you yourself are boring, just that if you have the same likes and dislikes, you will never be exposed to anything new. I think it would be redundant after a while.

Hehe, You sound just like my spouse. No, it wouldn't be boring if You aren't a boring person. When You see Yourself as the ideal person and when You already know what You want to do in life, a second one like Yourself is a dream. Imagine having someone who enjoy just the same things as You, and who want to do them as much as You. If You're creative and active, finding new things to do never is a problem. Your partner isn't supposed to be the one who bring You the new things to be exposed to, You should have that figured out within You already! A partner, in my point of view, is the one You share everything You already have planned out with to improve life in every way, to make that road easier and more meaningful. And what would be better than to have someone who is just as loving, funny, silly, smart, creative, active etc. as Yourself? I believe the term "soul-mate" is relative, and in my case, i'd love someone just like myself to spend my life with. If You don't like Yourself, i totally understand what You mean though.

Exactly... A person just like me would bug the livin crap outta me... I want a woman made entirely of chocolate... I know they already do that with bunny rabbits, but there are laws against that sort of thing...

u crack me up.


Willing to work together toward same thing. Trusting and not forcing his will on anybody, some one who gives me my space, not pushy and willing to sacrifice.