Wow 64 or even 65 is not old at all... GROW UP YOU HAVE AT LEAST 15 YEARS LEFT WE HOPE! As for varsa medicare keep on googling, it normally takes about 5 phonecalls to find a person you are looking for.. I've tried it and it works.. trouble is when you find them you may not like them LOL Success with your search.

You know, I spent years feeling lonely because I never felt liked and it wasn't until I was stripped of everything - money, home, job, boyfriend, car, family, did I learn that the only person I had to start liking was myself. And hell it wasn't easy, I still struggle, but once you are comfortable with you, then others will feel comfortable with you and then you will cease to feel lonely. I feel sorry for people who think you have to be in a relationship to not feel lonely. Believe me you can still be lonely, you just look okay from the outside. So i guess you have to ask yourself, which is it? How I feel or what other people think??

I am a 57 year old woman with lots of life to live, but I do feel tremendous lonelyness. I am fine during the week working and taking care of business, but on the weekend endless hours of nothing. I have hobbies, but does not fill the void of having people to laugh with and talk to. It is becoming more and more difficult to meet people that I have things in common with.

Oh yes you have to learn to like yourself before others may like you, perhaps more important, you must be able to respect yourself.. start there and new friends will at least know that you have limits like anyone else. To the 57 yr old female quest, well if you register at least its a start of trying to make friends and that is for anyone, what good is it moaning on a webpage when there are people out there that are on these forums that you could talk to? Afterall what have you got to loose? The majority of us on the internet have mobile phones, you can always txt once in a while? To new found friends? But try to link first..

I wonder what the point of a non-lonely life is supposed to be, anyway.

I identify with you a lot London Lady. I'm from London myself, got maybe one 'friend', but it's superficial. Other than that, nothing.

that was truly inspiring. thank you

This post was last modified: 08-04-2006 10:41 PM by bjarne.

London Lady, I am a london lady too and there's something about a massive city with non-stop buzz and a world that seems so very un-lonely outside your window that makes your loneliness so much more acute right? I have a nice big shield too, hiding the real me. I'm that girl everyone knows (or thinks they do) bubbly and confident-"Oh, her? Yeah she's fun!" Except it's all fake-look beneath the surface and I am insecure, lonely and scared of appearing weak. Scared of being used and abused because I've seen it so many times and have the mentality that I will never be that kind of woman. And I'm not...no one uses or abuses me, but no one loves or adores me. What is the point of a lonely life? It's safe, risk-free, if it's just me alone then no-one can hurt me BUT if it's just me no one can love me- and I just wanna be loved.

But you're right, people are so closed off-already set in their circles and relunctant to let new people in. My only advice is to keep trying, you can never suceed if you don't try-as another said: fight loneliness like it's your own worst enemy!

Sorry ...

Sorry ...