I’m lonely cos I’ve no emotionally intimate relationships in my life – I never have.
I never let anyone near me – cos I’ve had emotionally vacant/abusive parents, so I’ve always put up a defence.

This emotional defence – or social mask has made me feel protected – but very lonely since I feel that no one really knows me.

I should take my mask off – but I’ve a fear of rejection and being hurt, I don’t feel people will like accept the real me.
And I’m so used to wearing my social mask that I do it automatically without any conscious effort.
I pretend I’m happy when I’m not.
But I should make a conscious effort to be myself – and make a real connection with people.

I suppose I feel emotionally vulnerable – but we all are, so I shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed about that.

I’m so lonely cos I don’t feel connected to anyone.

Nobody seems to have time either.
Like I’ve joined evening classes in the hope of meeting people and making new friends – but people seem to already have their friends and its like they don’t want anyone else coming into their little circle.
I don’t want to seem desperate – like I’ve to beg someone to give me time.

I find it hard to make friends, people just don’t seem to have the time.
But all I’ve got is time – weird!!

What is the point of a lonely life?

i figure lonliness is just a figment of our imagination, we make ourselves lonely. ive recently just decided to give up on people altogetehr, i was lonely and it caused me to reach out, and i did make friends and i did get a girlfriend, sadly she moved away but was supposed to come back months later, i waited and waited, with a month to go she breaks promises she made, i ended it tonight and i dont think it was at all a bad choice, im going back to the way it was when it was simpler and easier and i wont let loneliness creep into my mind. id end life but im actually far far against it, im religious and have my own personal views on suicide, lifes still worth living alone or not.

I'm someone who is totally crap at making social masks. The real me shows through and I don't know how to be otherwise, except for just not talking. If I'm unhappy it shows, unstoppably. I really wish I could wear a mask sometimes.

So I can tell you a lot of people reject the real me. However a few don't, and those few people are my friends. Few. Also I had a good relationship for 3 years that I couldn't have had if I was closed.

Some people can sense if you're wearing a mask and so aren't interesting in talking to a mask. It's risky to open up to people, but it's better than being lonely.

I've been told that if I be myself, everyone will like me. Well it's not true, but if I'm not myself, I don't think anyone would like me.

Also I'm very not religious, but I do believe there is value in existence.

Dunno if that helps, I'll look back here later.

I hear ya LL,  I've always bounced off of the edges of social groups as well. People have their friends and are too selective to want to add more or something. Having to move every couple of years has made it so that I don't really have any friends and the people I do know were only performing basic social niceties.

The point of life is what you make of it though.

The point of a lonely life is to see how well you can get trough it, I guess...

im lonely cuz i hate guys i never let no guy come near me cuz i think they going to hurt me
my life has been a desaster  sees i was a little gurl
im still young
guys were always using me for there on purpose
so i prefer to be lonely

There is no point, but you could turn and make it a point? Im in Wales and yes lonely for various reasons.. I cant change my life so I look forward to the future, Lady in London just message me ok? I have always time to make new friends.. its a start isnot it?

I can handle a stressful life.
I can handle a tough life.
I can handle a life with unkown meaning and seeming lack of purpose.
What I am having a very hard time handling is a lonely life.
Being lonely is the ultimate curse, worse than physical pain.
Money can't fix it.
Time only makes it worse.
The side effect of lonliness is often depression and the lowering of your self esteem. Both of which do NOTHING but help perpetuate your state of lonliness!
I wish I had some perfect answer on how to not be lonely, but I don't.
What I have started doing is the following:
First, I remind myself, that the terrible feelings and thoughts I have when being lonely, far outweigh any embarrassment or socially uncomfortable feeling I might have, while trying to eliminate my lonliness.
Its far easier to face being shot down by a pretty woman / girl, than it is to face the thought of continuing to be lonely for the rest of my life.
I try to talk to at least one new woman each day, and more often than not, it turns out to be a positive experience. It gets easier each time I do it. One important thing to remember is, when you approach someone is to not think of them as a prospective date, but just someone to talk to. That way there is no added pressure, and it allows you to just be yourself.
You may have to meet 50 new people before you find someone who is single, who likes you, and feel comfortable enough to give you their number, or who wants yours.
So, far out of about 10 woman I have approached, I have gotten 1 phone number, been asked for my phone number once, and have only been outright shutdown only once. The others turned out to be just nice conversations.
You are in control, (to a certain extent), of how lonely you are.
But, you are in complete control, of how you address being lonely.
You can let it perpetuate, and deepen.
Or you can fight it like your worst enemy.
I chose the latter.
Good luck.

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