Hi friends

Why do we get socially isolated ? Is it because of our reluctance to trust the unknown ? What do u think

I believe everyone has different reasons.
I still don't understand mine completely, most of the time it's either that I want to be with someone but don't know what to say to them, or that I actually want to be alone.

maybe its due to lack of confidence or really low self esteem.

Hmm, i only get a little distant when i don't feel so well (physically). Alot of people seem to like to listen to music more than talking when they're bored.

But true social isolation... the most common must be, like You say, that You lack trust for the people around You.

im just a boring person who cant get social and is socially retarded...thats my reason..clear and simple

The reason I lack social skills is because I was raised by wolves. Well not real wolves but two parents who were too caught up in their own shit to their children build self-esteem. But I'm learning now through therapy and practice. I'm finally making up for the friends I've lost through the years. I have my two best friends and a handful of "aquaintances" and I'm happy with that.

Its a battle everyday because I have to be the opposite of shy and remember it always. I have to remind myself to make eye contact with people and say HI. So if 2 times out of 10 I act socialable I think that's an achievement.

I think my reason is that I distrust everyone because I've let myself get repeatedly walked all ober. It seems nowadays that nobody cares about anyone else and it's hard for those that do because like I said we get walked all over.

"What is there to say?", I ask myself. Holding up any conversation would only be small talk (if that)...Even if there was more to say, what mode of trust would I take...At that, I don't think they would care anyhow...I don't know...

Inasmuch as I dont wanna blame others for my predicament........................


In my case I think its a combination of things...

1) Parents especially mom kept on putting me down. I was never praised or appreciated. I was an honor student and tried everything in my power to please them... to no avail. My mom especially. For some reason, she had an aversion to everything I do and I am. All those years of putdowns... telling me I'm no good... and discouraging my every plan in life... like fuck. There is a conspiracy to hold me down forever! I'm an eagle and I refuse to be a fucking chicken!!!

2) The classmates. I was the skinny, girly-looking kid... Therefore an easy target for bullies. Got bullied alot. Wham! more erosion of self-esteem.

3) The relatives. Fucking family politics. They hate my mom for obvious reasons... and just because I'm her son, I'm hated as well.

4) The girls I loved. lol... I had a long litany of rejections and failed romance... too much already that I am very cynical about this whole "romance" thing.




It was the anger that built up and eventually had to give way... that I finally figured out this world is a shithole place to live in and all I'm doing is trying my best to learn my survival skills and adapt to my environment... and be successful in life.

That is my way of saying "fuck you" to this shithole of a world I've lived in.

But at the back of my mind... the built up anger and hate for this life... that I wish I never existed on this earth in the first place.

Askal,

I'm sorry to hear all the shit you've been through. I hope you do realize that it has made you stronger. Compared to kids who have been coddled their whole lives, you are stronger mentally than they. I hope that eventually you will get really strong and be able to leave this in the past.