Whats the worst thing someone could tell you when your down?
For me it's "Everybody has problems." Someone told me that one time and I just wanted to rip out his aorta....lol Boy, did that make me mad...lol

This post was last modified: 06-21-2008 01:44 AM by Naleena.

When I'm down the worst thing to tell me is "don't be desperate, everything will be ok". I know without any words that later or earlier everything will become ok. and when i'm down i often say jokes.

This post was last modified: 06-21-2008 03:04 AM by Dog.

Never had anyone say it, but I guess something like "suck it up, stop whining" would really crush me. If I told my father about my feelings I'd probably hear something like that

mine used to be "you could do [whatever] better"
but i now i got it all worked out
i dont let people see when im upset and nobody really tries to notice, so they leave me be

People who are feeling down don't need to be TOLD that things will get better! Their chances are usually about 50/50 that it will be better and you can't possibly know. All you can do is lend them support in their time of need. Personally, I won't blow sunshine up anyone's ass. I tell it like it is (with tact, of course, no reason to deliberately hurt feelings). I'd much rather someone be HONEST with me! Example...OK, you think your life sucks. I'm sorry you feel that way. What can I do to help? Do you need me to just listen while you vent? Whose ass would you like me to kick? Do you need a pint of Ben and Jerry's Chunky Munky?? Need to borrow my American Express? That's what people who are down need to hear. I think it's best to draw the focus from the problem, especially if it's something that they have to work out on their own.
I guess if someone told me to suck it up or to stop whining, I'd be seriously tempted to do them bodily harm, because they're OBVIOUSLY suffering from cranium-rectal disorder. *rolls eyes*

It makes me upset when people argue with me... I'm sure I'm not the only one who's tried to confide in someone that I was feeling down, or especially since I moved that I just can't seem to make friends... And people'd tell me that I'm doing it on purpose because I dress funny or that I'm just trying to sound "emo"... For me, that's the worst...

I hate when people say I'm emo! Duuude, I'm so not emo! rofl.
The worst thing someone could tell me? It really makes my day when people complain loudly about having to be around me. But most stuff like that I just laugh it off and make fun of them for being rude.
I hate when people make fun of me for being upset, I get that from my parental unit quite often. I mean, I'm sure it's funny. I'm so pathetic, and it's all hormones. I think hormones are stupid too. So, I know that nothing I feel ever means anything because it's just hormones, I don't feel bad ever I just think I do. I know that, but I don't need the constant reminders that everything I am is just a mass produced waste of space. I already know that, duh. I hate when they mae fun of me for that stuff as though it's something I can control. The only thing about me that isn't controlled completely by chemicals are the words that I say. But it bugs me when people ignore that to make fun of me for how I feel. Because it's not like I say how I feel, that's stupid. What I feel is just chemicals, who cares about that anyway.

I sound like I've been completely brainwashed, but that's ok because I'm the one that did it. I hate when people say that.

I hope it works out

You should realize that when someone says a thing like that it just means that they are really stupid and have no true emotion or knowledge to give to you.

This happens A LOT. Why? Deep down people don't give a damn. Some people may even be happy to see you down and that makes them feel better.

Microsoft, Apple, or some other company should make a program, record, or movie for you to watch that will display someone telling you the same bullshit that you hear when you need a good pick me up. Empty words and phrases like that belong to the real fakeness that should be operated by the machines we use.

This post was last modified: 06-21-2008 10:06 AM by DayvanCowboy.

When you are down there are so many things you want to hear...but sometimes the reassurance you receive can do you more harm than good. To be honest I think we are all guilty sometimes of telling others that things will be okay when we know that things are likely to get much worse before they get better.

The worst thing for me is hearing a piece of music when I am down...those of you that have seen the Day After Tomorrow...if I want to have a cry then that always sets me off...the opening piece of music...or the theme to Schindler's List.

That is just me though.

Sometimes it is better if we say nothing...a hug or an arm round the shoulder tells you that people are close when you need them.

Did I answer the question lol?