What do you do when the other friend or potential friend stops reaching out ( writing phoning) without an explanation No fight no argument no reason.


When another person stops communicating with me , I feel like i want an answer or explanation as to why. I'm left wondering what the hell happened. Especially when others ask me What happened to so and so ? How are they doing? Do you still talk to them? Than i don't know what to say I feel like somethings wrong with me.



Why can't I just let it be? Even if I'm not hurt or sad, I still wonder once in a while as to what happened.

Has this happened to anyone here? Did you ask them what's up or did you just go on your way try to forget about it?

It has happened to me also, but what I have worked out is that in your life, friends will come and friends will go. There are probably many different reasons for friends drifting away. I have recently lost a friend that I had for twenty years. I tried to keep in touch, but my friend hasn't responded, so there's really not much that I can do about it, just accept it and let it go.

Well...what i did was i asked and asked. And there was no answer at all so i left too. The questions do come back to mind sometimes but when you leave it, it means you let go of it too and in time, you just forget about it. Can't make someone like you or be your friend if they just don't want to. No point in keeping yourself in a type of situation where the other party isn't willing to be in it with you.
I don't think there's any harm in asking though.

yep. this has happened 2 me2. & i did ask b4. but ppl just usually evade so now i know better 2 just leave it alone. what i always say 2 myself is. thats its good they left. bcuz if they were that rude 2 just stop communication w/o an xplaination/goodbye then theyre not the type of person i really want 2 b communicating w/ in the 1st place

Thanks everyone for your responses.

I guess I have a lesson to learn in letting go.

I can forgive and I'm sure I can let go but, I always wonder , here and there , once in awhile , for no particular reason , why?

Why did they stop trying to know me?

Lose interest?

Maybe we are with people to learn something and when there's nothing left to learn you move on.

Thanks again

u know. i honestly believe this. & hell those ppl u knew 4 a few weeks who suddenly disconnect r way easier 2 deal with than those ppl u know 4 yrs who do it
sometimes i just think most ppl r really cold. i could never b that way

Apparently so. I could never be that way either..

thats good mink

These are good questions. I've asked myself the same types of questions. The subject of these posts resonates deeply with my own recent experiences of loss and rejection by others. I am back down to zero friends to talk to (again).

My conclusion is that it is a matter of the heart. I am still trying to find my own heart, but I have come to realize that one's heart has multiple competing interests.

It really doesn't matter what the mind thinks, ultimately the motivations and energy to take action in life come from the heart, even when it runs against the grain of common sense and socially acceptable norms of behavior.

I don't think there is a rational answer to these questions, but they are good questions.

Did you ever think that maybe there's something wrong with them? Why do people automatically blame themselves? You didn't stop communicating..they did.