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I'm 29/M and I would date a woman that is loosing her hair or bald even, it's not the end of the world! :-) So cheer up! :-) Bald women are NOT UGLY!

One thought comes to my mind, why do we try to look good.
I know all of us here are supposed to be lonely, but it it that looks attract people towards you, especially the people you would like to be with. I would like to believe that looks really dont, then there is no place for a normal looking people,
World will be filled with stunning people.
Forget about how you look, once somebody gets to know you, that wud never matter.
Just try to give as much as possible in any relationship, as a friend or just an acquaintance. U'r world will change for the positive.

Any thoughts on this??

Silvernight,
How ya doing with the hair troubles?
I am sorry for the pain you are suffering. Sadly, you are in a culture that prizes appearance far to much, and teaches others to do the same. Take heart in knowing that MANY other people value you for much deeper reasons that your hair. I know that sounds vacant, and like I don't get it. I do get that this is a life-altering event for you.
So you just have to work with what you were given in life. It isn't so much that this happened to you, but what you did with it that makes the different.
One silver lining I can see in this situation is that it is like a natural tool to weed out the shallow people you meet who would reject a person based on hair alone. You would never want to know those people, or be in a relationship with them anyway.
If it happened to me, I would cry, and be depressed. And then I would try to find a personal style that accommodated the condition. Maybe shave off the remaining hair, or make myself some nice, cool, headwear that could become a trend and make me rich. LOL
Or maybe I would have an amazing design tattooed on my dome. Probably not. But it is a possibility.
So whatever you decide to do, be at peace the best you can and remember you are beautiful from the inside out.
T

Hello guys, sorry I failed to respond after making that post. I was reeeaaally desperate at that time and I wasn't exaggerating when I said that absolutely any suggestion that I should put up with the condition and/or consider wigs was literally killing me. Which is why I avoided looking at the replies for so long No, of course, I wasn't expecting anyone to propose a miracle cure, I wasn't expecting anything, just needed to get it off. Unfortunately, it's true that I'm like that: no amount of kind words, nothing short of solving the problem (or at least getting a really valid reason to hope that it could be solved) makes me cheer up.

Even so I appreciate your trying to be nice. I could never accept or embrace baldness not by choice as it is at implacable odds with my personal perception of beauty. I agree that you're supposed to get over problems like that, to make the most of it and blah blah blah, it's just that I'm not wired that way and can't pretend to be ok with it.

Fortunately, I do now have a valid hope that it could be solved and therefore I'm less jumpy and easily crushed (or else I wouldn't be writing the response ). A little over a month ago I found the email of a very competent Canadian doctor online who was so nice as to actually hear me out and prescribe an available (and cheap) medication for addressing the root of the problem. I don't wanna say anything too early but it seems to me that it already started having a positive effect. Hopefully, it's going to work

Sinead O'Connor may have looked.. bearable, not really ugly (definitely not beautiful either), just ok. However, it's the overall shape of the head and face that matters here, and very few women, let me tell you, have the appropriate shape that would make baldness actually look good on them. Take, as an example, Natalie Portman who shaved her head at "V for Vendetta" and Britney Spears who did the same for.. hell knows why. The first looked gorgeous, she's that rare type whom being shaved suits very well, the second - just... ugh. Yes, the personality matters more, but the truth is that looks, at least as the first impression, matters too. Oh and just for the record, being shaved does not look the same as losing hair for unnatural reasons. In the first case, very short hairs are clearly visible making the scalp look darker and different from the rest of the skin while there's just a smooth and very shiny skin in the second variant... much worse.

I'm glad to hear there's hope.

This post was last modified: 06-13-2008 11:10 PM by Antihero.

Hopefully, it's going to work

That would be great. I hope it does work for you.

That can be difficult for a male to deal with, where it is much more common. Much more difficult for a female.

While it could be dealt with it would be great if there is no need for that.

I hope it works out.
good luck

I wish I could find it again, but awhile back I found a girl's website with a section of photos she had professionally taken. She was completely bald. They were a bit provocative, where she was mostly clad in leather. One photo even had a snake hanging around her neck. I think she had a few tattoos as well.

The point is, this woman was gorgeous and the fact that she didn't have a single hair on her head gave her some kind of otherworldy beauty. In fact, I don't think she would have been nearly as attractive to me if she had hair.

I understand you'd much rather have your hair, but I just wanted to comment that there's much more to a woman's beauty than what's on her head. I can't be the only man that feels this way.

Thanks for the good wishes all )

JustLost, it would be interesting to have a look. If she does actually look good, I'll be the first to acknowledge that. I actually browsed some sites related to women's hair loss and had a look at some of their photos and videos (what's that about that strange masochistic urge to torture yourself with those exact sights you wish at all costs to avoid? ). They most assuredly did not cheer me up. Those (bald) women were, no doubt, brave to have accepted their condition and many posters expressed their admiration for their looks.. but, I'm objective, really, and I cannot genuinely say they looked good. Much to the contrary. But it's just my personal opinion, naturally. That's what really sucks. I can deal with my recurring spells of depression of varying degrees and psychological stuff like that, they can be suppressed with some effort. But not with what I perceive as a horribly ugly appearance. It would be like a big fat cross on my life forever. Not dramatizing, just saying as it is.

Anyways, I'm not giving up. I absolutely refuse to put up with this disgrace. The current treatment is going to work (ever heard about self-persuasion ).

Oh yeah, if I wanted to have an otherworldly look, I'd much rather get sharp-pointed ears, always liked those

This post was last modified: 06-10-2008 05:35 AM by Silvernight.