I'm sorry to sound like a fragging drama queen, really I am. I usually avoid such statements. But I can't help it right now, I feel completely hopeless and I don't want to live. Why am I writing this here? Because this is probably the only place where no one will outright tell me to shut up and just get a grip because there are so many people that have worse problems than a stupid cosmetic disorder. Cosmetic disorder indeed.. I have a condition that is called androgenic alopecia (pattern baldness, often genetic and caused by the increased sensitivity of the hair follicles to the hormone DHT). It's not curable by current means, you can only slow it down (or fail to do it). It's now worse than ever before, I absolutely dread washing my hair and it is everywhere. If I ever was on the quick and sure path towards becoming bald and ugly, it is now. It's not like I have much of it left. Mesotherapy did have an effect at first but it didn't last and I cannot continue intensive procedures anyway, they're too expensive, I've already wasted lots of money on it. And just by the way, I'm a girl, so you can imagine what it feels like. If nothing else, this will definitely be an iron-clad reason for no one to even want to speak to me, let alone ever love me and can I truly blame them? No. Because bald women are ugly and this is apparently my impending fate.

I'm sorry to be so negative but I really want to just go and die in the corner, and I know no one can help. This is a pointless rant. It's just.. I don't know what to do anymore.

This post was last modified: 04-06-2008 08:47 PM by Silvernight.

oww, That's dose suck for you. Why I was reading that I was thinking or you a girl or a boy. It dose make it weirs cos your a girl agreed.

There are some very good wigs out there you know. we had a teacher who where a wig. He was mail. We called him wige derr well we only know that he where a wig cos he told us. Other wise we would have never had known.

Thing is you can save your self a lot of time by wearing one. You would not have to do your heir every morning. there is also a person over the rode from me who has just changed sex from mail to female. she now wheres a wig and you also would never know.

How old are you? I would say its harder if your still quite young. They are some stars that have this problem you know. I cert think of any apart from graham norton at the minute but they are others as well.

And don't worry about being negative. Its quite understandable that you well feel down sometimes about it. I get very down about my own body.

There is a lot moor ppl out there that have to where wigs then you wold think. ppl that have got cancer for one. The treatment to make them better makes them loss there heir.

Thing to do is go look for some that you like. They might be a lot out there that you would like to where. Wigs that is.

like this sight. the fist Google search for wigs. http://www.wigsforladies.co.uk/?gclid=CK...1AodSXl2bQ

I especially like this look http://www.wigsforladies.co.uk/katie-p-2...qm2a00age2

Now you would never know that was a wig would you. and BTW there hot and I think most women wold struggle to get there heir to look that good. Yours would look good all the time.

This post was last modified: 04-06-2008 09:06 PM by Bluey.

Thank you for trying to help but please, just don't mention wigs. Please. It's enough to throw me into hysteria. I can't even stand the thougt of wigs, it's so.. false. I'm 25.

This post was last modified: 04-06-2008 09:56 PM by Silvernight.

Oh am sorry. I Guss its something that you have been told many times all ready.

25 is very young still yes. I am 33 and still consider my self as young.

I have to where a rise in my shoe and my spine is still going over making my hip move further up and the limp worse so every time I buy a new peer of shoes I have to have that bit moor of a rise in the left one. Its getting to the point where they cert put anymore in the shoe so I well have to have a rise on the outside. its something I have been unwilling to discourse with anyone as am just avoiding the problem. But it dose not make it go away. every one has things about them that are different. A diabetic has to inject them self ones or two times a day. I cert go anywhere with out the rise in my shoe are I would be in a lot of pain very quickly. Its this things that make us mad with the world and GOD (if hes real?) that make us who we are. Its the in perfections that make us, us. I even know a guy that is younger then me who has a bowl condition that is pooing him self all the time. You would never know to meet him as he always puts loads of aftershave and deodorant on. I think what am trying to say its not going to be a problem for anyone that's going to meet you. It would not stop me from loving a girl or being friends with you and I caret imagine there is many ppl in the world that it would. It just makes you a moor interesting person. I know it probably don't feel like that right now. But that's because I and everyone else you talk to about it can look from the outside instead of getting worked up about it and feeling like the world and God is against you. The world is not. You have to look at this differently to how you are. If its bothering you to that degree you should go and fined a someone in a moor professional since to talk with. Am not saying your mad. ppl go to talk to counselors just cos there trying to give up smoking now days. Am just saying its going to affect you cos your a young women and quite rightly concerned with how it looks. That just shows you have pride in your self. I would be interested to see how it looks. my Guss is it looks wears to you then to anyone else. And I know you don't wont to hear about the wigs but if its getting weirs then that is something your going to have to consider.

This post was last modified: 04-06-2008 10:23 PM by Bluey.

Sorry to hear what you have to say

The truth of the matter is if god exists he hates us all.

That may be true. I have often thought what is the point of a God if he could change everything and anything but choosers not to. This is why I do not believe in God as to what the bible would interpret it.

Yes it's false, but it's the only _other_ option you got. I'm sure there are a lot of people who wear wigs while most of the people around them are unaware of it, it's not like a they have this big sign on them saying "this is a wig". Some celebrities even have a wig, for instance Tina Turner, Cher and Dolly Parton (some more obvious than the other), i'm not sure why they wear one though. What I'm trying to say here is, you're certainly not alone.

or you know what?? You could just shave it all of and rock it bald...or with a really kickin scarf or something. I know you won't believe me but my hair gives me a really hard time, and I am not the kind of girl who likes to spend loads of time on my looks. I have often wished that I was badass enough to just shave it off and be confident with that look. I know its not for everyone, just a different way of looking at it. I know some really beautiful women who have very little hair, or are bald. My aunt has gone through chemo several times in her life and had no hair for awhile. She bought all kinds of cool hats/scarves, and she looked great!! It all comes down to how you present yourself, if you embrace it and have some fun with it, other people will see you the same way. And confidence is attractive!!

I don't know girl, only you know whats right for you. I'm sorry it causes you so much pain. We all have things we struggle with, some of us with very visible physical things on the outside, sometimes with internal stuff. But either way, I don't think we are meant to be defeated by them, you just got to make it work!

Good luck!

I gotta be honest with ya...and I'm not just saying this, I swear. Bald chicks...you know, like, the whole head shaved thing? It's really not a bad look. Sinead O' Connor rocked a mean bald head, and I think Tank Girl only has like...a couple strands for bangs or something. Be bold and be bald. I understand it might seem like the end of the world, but you'd be surprised at how accepting people can be.

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through alot. I'm not a girl but I have long hair and I definately wouldn't want to lose it if it wasn't my own choice, but yeah I can imagine it must be much tougher for a girl.

You know, even if it would come to this I don't agree that it would be ugly, not at all.