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Sitting here reading for class, my thoughts took me elsewhere. I realized tonight that I have pretty much no social life outside my best friend (who I rarely get to see because she comes from a really strict family) and then my family. Don't get me wrong I love my family so much and my best friend is great, but I can't remember the last time I went out with "friends" or people beyond my parents and sister.

Usually I'm content staying at home, I love reading and playing video games... working out alone, watching TV... but on days like today I really think that I'm not happy. I'm afraid that I'm going to wake up one day and realize that for the last 5 years of my life I've been miserable but acting like I'm not.

How does a 23 year old girl with no one to "go out with", go out and meet friends? I don't even know where I can go by myself without looking weird... does anyone else have this problem? Or have suggestions. Sad
I'm basically the same...no social life outside of my boyfriend. I'm involved in lots of stuff so I *know* a lot of people that I'm friendly with, but it never progresses beyond talking to them at whatever activity I know them from. I can't remember the last time I "went out with a group of friends" either...

So, uh, no suggestions since I have the same problem, but you have my sympathies. Toungue
Well, I like staying home too. But I think it would be nice to go out by myself, maybe go see a movie, or even out to eat. I see nothing wrong with spending some time alone. And you never know who you're going to meet while doing so.
(07-13-2010, 12:03 PM)labelsorlove3 Wrote: [ -> ]Sitting here reading for class, my thoughts took me elsewhere. I realized tonight that I have pretty much no social life outside my best friend (who I rarely get to see because she comes from a really strict family) and then my family. Don't get me wrong I love my family so much and my best friend is great, but I can't remember the last time I went out with "friends" or people beyond my parents and sister.

Usually I'm content staying at home, I love reading and playing video games... working out alone, watching TV... but on days like today I really think that I'm not happy. I'm afraid that I'm going to wake up one day and realize that for the last 5 years of my life I've been miserable but acting like I'm not.

How does a 23 year old girl with no one to "go out with", go out and meet friends? I don't even know where I can go by myself without looking weird... does anyone else have this problem? Or have suggestions. Sad

One of things I've done is to join a group with a shared interest, and take it from there. You see, last year, as my LTR (effectively a marriage in all but name) was falling apart, I took up jogging. Found it was nice to get away and have a little run - I also needed to get fit, and figured, 'what the hell'. To cut a long story short, I found that I enjoyed the running so much, that I could pound out 2 miles a day quite easily - and if I was feeling particularly stressed or particularly happy, I might knock out 5 miles. Not so long ago, I ran 10 miles! Anyway, I was aware of a local jogging club, and about a month ago, I decided to join it. I figured it would be a good way to make new friends, etc etc.

And it's pretty good. At first, it's a bit of a trial, because you're the new person, nobody knows you, and you feel a bit left out on the fringes. But give it time, and you soon find people to talk to. I still feel very lonely for most of the time - but these things do take time, and I'm gonna stick with it.

What I'm suggesting, labels, is that maybe you should try joining a club of some kind? You say you like to work out - how about a gym? Or maybe think of something you'd like to really do, and see if there's a local club or association that might help you. If you like long walks, why not join a hiking group? If there's something you want to learn, why not night classes? Have a good old think about it, and see what you can come up with. Just remember that joining a group will not give you an instant circle of friends (though you probably know this already); as I said, it takes time, and for the first few weeks at least you're likely to feel a bit of an outsider. However, as time goes on, you'll find yourself chatting to more and more people, and don't forget that many clubs usually have a strong social dimension too - BBQs, parties, restaurant nights, that sort of thing.

It's a bold move, joining a new social group or club, and a little scary too, if you've been lonely for a while. But as the old Chinese saying goes, 'the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.'