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Welcome to the site.
Hi Nemo! Welcome to the site!

Your story was quite interesting (qi if you like that show Big Grin) but also quite touching. I hope ALL can help you find what you're looking for.

On a side note - I always found taller women attractive...it was my understanding that tall women don't like men that are shorter than they are :p. Either way it sounds like you are being too hard on yourself regarding looks. We all are at times, but chances are you are hotter than you make yourself out to be Cool.
(04-02-2012, 08:20 AM)Peter Lorre Wrote: [ -> ]Hey Nemo, welcome to the forum!

I'm sorry to hear you got layed off, I guess this is why people say there's more to life than work, to try and avoid situations like these. Not that that helps you in any way ofcourse. On the positive side, you've got a lot of experience, a degree and you're still young, maybe there's other jobs out there that have your name all over them! I do hope you'll find one of those soon Smile

Anyway, I hope you'll enjoy your stay here. Feel free to PM or to join the chat if there's ever something on your mind that you just have to share with someone. In the meantime, do take care. See you around Smile

Hello Peter, thanks so much for your reply.

Yes you are right, there is more to life than work, but that is all I wanted from life, as I knew that the 2.4 kids, house in the country and all the other typical stuff was never going to happen. I didnt want to be greedy. I dont live in a 3rd world country, I have a roof over my head, and Im not starving. So reaching for the stars of the 'ideal' life seemed too much to dare hope for. Even now I feel guilty for moaning about this.

The irony is that I feel very alone, but I operate best on my own. I am always feel the odd one out, the exception. Not in a big headed 'I'm superior' way, but as in the curiosity in the corner. Being an individual in a world that operates in conformity is a very lonely place if you are not seen as a conformist.

So it makes me question am I alone because I just dont fit in, or because I cant fit in?



(04-02-2012, 05:03 PM)grainofrice24 Wrote: [ -> ]Hi Nemo! Welcome to the site!

Your story was quite interesting (qi if you like that show Big Grin) but also quite touching. I hope ALL can help you find what you're looking for.

On a side note - I always found taller women attractive...it was my understanding that tall women don't like men that are shorter than they are :p. Either way it sounds like you are being too hard on yourself regarding looks. We all are at times, but chances are you are hotter than you make yourself out to be Cool.

Hello Grain,
Thanks for your reply.

re my looks thanks for your kind words. I get good days when I think 'yeah, Im not too bad' and bad weeks when I just want to cover my head with a large paper bag.

It is the reaction from other people which gets to me. Stupid I know. I could go to town about the effects of the mass media on people's perception of beauty - dont worry I wont. Unfortunately it does enter our thought processes with negative effects for those who dont fit into the impossible ideal.

I would rather be thought of as brainy, kind and thoughtful, than pretty, horrible or silly. But it seems you have to be considered pretty and act silly enough so not to worry the boss to get anywhere in life.

The real me doesnt consist in the way I wear my hair, or the way I dress. I dont connect to clothes the way some people do, for me they are items I need so I dont get cold or arrested. I havent enough energy to fight all these battles - I just want a job I can do well, and be able to support myself in a modest manner. Fair trade off for everything else I thought. Guess I was wrong!



Hello everyone,
I just wanted to say a big thank you to everyone for reading and replying to me. I appreciate all of your kind, welcoming words. They are already helping me and for that I am grateful.
(04-02-2012, 08:30 AM)Sci-Fi Wrote: [ -> ]Welcome to the site.

Hello SciFi, and thanks for the welcome.

Lonely in BC

Welcome aboard Nemo,

You've got a pretty good sense of humor despite the things that seem to be weighing you down. You're writing style is interesting, it was a pleasure to read your posts and I think we've had a glimpse of a pretty unique individual. I hope you get the breaks you're looking for and start having a life more appealing to you than the way things are right now.

Wishing you a better tomorrow.

Poguesy

G'day Big Grin
(04-03-2012, 01:40 PM)Lonely in BC Wrote: [ -> ]Welcome aboard Nemo,

You've got a pretty good sense of humor despite the things that seem to be weighing you down. You're writing style is interesting, it was a pleasure to read your posts and I think we've had a glimpse of a pretty unique individual. I hope you get the breaks you're looking for and start having a life more appealing to you than the way things are right now.

Wishing you a better tomorrow.

Hello Lonely in BC,
Thanks replying and for your kind words.

Recently I have been feeling down and feeling guilty about it - (twisted logic!) But the responses I have received have been a great help.

There are times when being alone is OK, but there are times when it isnt. This forum has proved to me that being alone with my own thoughts 24/7 is not healthy. For instance when I tell myself that Im not worthy, there is no one else argue the case.

Im currently attempting to escape my little world of self imposed misery. If all goes well I will write a post - hopefully it will help others as much as everyones responses have helped me.


(04-03-2012, 09:09 PM)Poguesy Wrote: [ -> ]G'day Big Grin

Hello Poguesy, hope you are well.
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