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Have you not been able to meet anyone locally from the site you use?

It's not good to get so emotionally invested in a person you haven't met in person.

Until you actually meet face to face you won't be able to tell if there is any chemistry there.

I've met countless people who seemed great online and when we met in person we did not get along well at all.

At most I will spend two weeks talking to a person online and if we don't end up meeting in person then I stop talking.

If you are only looking for an online friend then talking online forever is fine, but if you want anything more you have to move it forward pretty fast so you don't end up wasting your time. Five minutes in real life tells a lot more than months of talking online.

Also Skype is really awkward. I don't have social anxiety but I hate talking to people on Skype.
(08-09-2013, 11:57 PM)theglasscell Wrote: [ -> ]Have you not been able to meet anyone locally from the site you use?

It's not good to get so emotionally invested in a person you haven't met in person.

Until you actually meet face to face you won't be able to tell if there is any chemistry there.

I've met countless people who seemed great online and when we met in person we did not get along well at all.

At most I will spend two weeks talking to a person online and if we don't end up meeting in person then I stop talking.

If you are only looking for an online friend then talking online forever is fine, but if you want anything more you have to move it forward pretty fast so you don't end up wasting your time. Five minutes in real life tells a lot more than months of talking online.

Also Skype is really awkward. I don't have social anxiety but I hate talking to people on Skype.


I got 2 message from local guys. One 27 another my age. One asked to meet up like going to the movies. But I never reply back. I guess I'm just scare of meeting new people, thinking if it would be awarked. Maybe I have a little social anxiety. I usually get nervous talking to people. And give short answers. Sometimes I picture myself saying things, but when it comes out, comes out wrong.
(08-09-2013, 10:55 AM)VanillaCreme Wrote: [ -> ]I didn't know it was rare for females to like wrestling. I think the fan base is pretty even.

The fan base is even but it can also depend on the promotion (and who "openly" talks about it). A lot of women that like wrestling usually like WWE. I rarely hear any talk about TNA and even fewer talking ROH. We won't get into the indies or the Japanese promotions. I'm a fan of true professional wrestling and storytelling through a match, not necessarily the storytelling through some storyline or the soap opera that turned pro wrestling into "sports entertainment." This is just one guy sounding off.
(08-09-2013, 04:02 PM)LeaningIntoTheMuse Wrote: [ -> ]A face to face meeting doesn't rely on lighting, or computer generated effects. The network can also make you look like a complete nightmare. Which is why someone who has a bad picture can be absolutely stunning in person. And which is also why photoshop can make average looking people look like models. It's a trick.

That's still beside the point - at least the one I was trying to make. Though I understand that side as well. I don't really like cameras or anything either. I'd feel bad if I cracked someone's camera lens. Club

(08-11-2013, 06:55 AM)will normal Wrote: [ -> ]
(08-09-2013, 10:55 AM)VanillaCreme Wrote: [ -> ]I didn't know it was rare for females to like wrestling. I think the fan base is pretty even.

The fan base is even but it can also depend on the promotion (and who "openly" talks about it). A lot of women that like wrestling usually like WWE. I rarely hear any talk about TNA and even fewer talking ROH. We won't get into the indies or the Japanese promotions. I'm a fan of true professional wrestling and storytelling through a match, not necessarily the storytelling through some storyline or the soap opera that turned pro wrestling into "sports entertainment." This is just one guy sounding off.

Yeah, I can understand that. Speaking as a female who has watched wrestling - all of it, WWF/E, WCW, the original ECW, and I know TNA, Ring of Honor, and a good chunk of indies, as well as New Japan and other Japanese promotions - nearly all of my life, I don't even think of gender when it comes to liking wrestling. To me, it's just like, "Oh, you like wrestling too? Awesome. Who's your favorite?" You know, I don't even think of the boy/girl thing.
(08-09-2013, 07:22 PM)Fluffy Wrote: [ -> ]One of you mention background check. When we first started emailing each other I asked if he was really 27. So he send me proof, which of his I.d., but from his hometown Chicago (where he's from).
It show his full name and address.

He also mention because I never dated, had a boyfriend etc... he was more concerned for me. Because it would be a big step.

I will keep you all inform.

That was me. It's good to be empathetic, & social anxiety is understandable. But young women also get murdered every week because of trusting the wrong person. It's great that you got his contact info, though. Big Grin
(08-09-2013, 11:57 PM)theglasscell Wrote: [ -> ]Have you not been able to meet anyone locally from the site you use?

So, I finaly meet up with someone local. 28 never married nor kids. We meet up for the first time last night for dinner. Lets just say it went ok. We have some things in common. But i'm just too shy and quite. I consider myself more a listener than a talker. I don't know if there were sparks or not. I didn't feel nerves or anything. I told him if anything we can start as friends.
I tried online dating the past few months. In Michigan it was easy to find people that will speak with you and they were all pretty much polite and friendly. Since being back in California it's like a whole other world. All the women are dressy preppy, none of them contact you first and even if you notice you have a lot of things in common with them and send them a message they will not even respond. Michigan it was so simple, the person would always respond and you could tell pretty quickly how things would go, but at least I was given opportunities. Now it's like every person you try to even get to know makes you feel like your beneath them to even speak to.

I miss Michigan for many reasons, one of them is the fact the people are nicer and more open to meeting people.
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