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(03-08-2014, 05:40 AM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]Feeling tired of being rejected. Hoping I can figure out how to resolve it.

Does this mean you are past A on the DABDA scale and entering B?Big Grin
(03-08-2014, 05:45 AM)jaguarundi Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-08-2014, 05:40 AM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]Feeling tired of being rejected. Hoping I can figure out how to resolve it.

Does this mean you are past A on the DABDA scale and entering B?Big Grin

Don't know. I don't know what the DABDA scale is.
(03-08-2014, 07:28 AM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-08-2014, 05:45 AM)jaguarundi Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-08-2014, 05:40 AM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]Feeling tired of being rejected. Hoping I can figure out how to resolve it.

Does this mean you are past A on the DABDA scale and entering B?Big Grin

Don't know. I don't know what the DABDA scale is.

Go to Wikipedia. Type in DABDA, or Kubler-Ross. You may find it interesting in relation to your recent girlfriend issues......
Hope the weekend goes well.
(03-08-2014, 08:02 AM)jaguarundi Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-08-2014, 07:28 AM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-08-2014, 05:45 AM)jaguarundi Wrote: [ -> ]
(03-08-2014, 05:40 AM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]Feeling tired of being rejected. Hoping I can figure out how to resolve it.

Does this mean you are past A on the DABDA scale and entering B?Big Grin

Don't know. I don't know what the DABDA scale is.

Go to Wikipedia. Type in DABDA, or Kubler-Ross. You may find it interesting in relation to your recent girlfriend issues......

I looked it up. I can see how it applies, but no, I'm still angry, only now I'm angry and looking for a solution. I intend to get her to see how much better I am than what she's chosen, and in doing so send her junkie bf back to trolling high school parking lots. I don't really like how the cycle ends with "acceptance" - acceptance of failure. He should be the one to have to accept failure, since he's chosen to make a lifestyle out of it.

She used to beg me to be around and go out of her way to be sweet to me, so I'll simply have to make her see that the choices she's made have cost her something valuable - namely, me. The Friend Zone is simply a problem which cannot be solved by the same tactics that got me there. Got to keep calm and use my brain here. And if no one's gotten out, I shall simply have to be the first.
I'm thinking that the more fishy-wishy posts about his girl problem, the more it sounds like a battle he is determined to win, and less and less about - being in love with someone. Sad

In fact right about now the hate is coming across rather a lot more than the lovin' - perfectly normal of course.

Just saying. . .

WildernessWildChild

(03-08-2014, 09:13 PM)jaguarundi Wrote: [ -> ]I'm thinking that the more fishy-wishy posts about his girl problem, the more it sounds like a battle he is determined to win, and less and less about - being in love with someone. Sad

In fact right about now the hate is coming across rather a lot more than the lovin' - perfectly normal of course.

Just saying. . .

Yep
(03-08-2014, 09:13 PM)jaguarundi Wrote: [ -> ]I'm thinking that the more fishy-wishy posts about his girl problem, the more it sounds like a battle he is determined to win, and less and less about - being in love with someone. Sad

In fact right about now the hate is coming across rather a lot more than the lovin' - perfectly normal of course.

Just saying. . .

That's pretty much right. When I think of her now, it really is an even mix of love and hate. I hate what she's chosen. 99.99999% of girls, hell, 99.99999% of people would agree that this guy is a stupid, selfish, dirtbag. I don't know, maybe he's king....of the local trailer park. I hate that that is what she chooses, and she says she didn't see me as a guy. Oh yea, that's after she spent almost an entire year acting overly sweet to me, including saying she'd sleep with me (she's the one who brought it up) and acting like she honestly cared about what happened in my life.

But I love her too. Aside from family members, she was the sweetest person to me. She was really bright and adventurous and encouraging. She made me so curious. Most of all, conversation with her seemed so natural, it was completely effortless and fun to make a connection. We seemed to want "more" out of life in the same way. I never once felt like I had to put on some kind of "cool guy" attitude, I always felt that we just "got" each other so perfectly.

That's why I think it's a battle worth winning. I'm sorry if I go on and on but it's one of those things that I feel I need to solve, we only get so many chances to get life right and I've blown so many as it is. Instead of having more opportunities taken from me, I'd like to start doing some taking of my own so I can make things better. I want to turn things around.
No baby. You didn't love her. You loved what you thought she was. . You loved a dream, a fantasy. She was an on-line thing, you didn't really know her. You projected the good and loving things inside you, on to her. But she is herself. And you my dear, are you.

I am sad at all the energy you are putting into this foolish emotional battle with this other guy to try and prove you are the one for her. I think you would do better right now in using this energy to find a job you like (at least a bit), and to get on in your life.

What you felt for a shadow, an electronic wraith of a person, is something tremendous that one day you can give to a real person. Don't continue to waste your time with this, skafish. Find a real woman to love, who will really love you back.

*sighs* I know you are probably not in the place to take anything I say in right now.. . Just remember it for later. OK?
(03-09-2014, 05:10 AM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]That's pretty much right. When I think of her now, it really is an even mix of love and hate. I hate what she's chosen. 99.99999% of girls, hell, 99.99999% of people would agree that this guy is a stupid, selfish, dirtbag. I don't know, maybe he's king....of the local trailer park. I hate that that is what she chooses, and she says she didn't see me as a guy. Oh yea, that's after she spent almost an entire year acting overly sweet to me, including saying she'd sleep with me (she's the one who brought it up) and acting like she honestly cared about what happened in my life.

But I love her too. Aside from family members, she was the sweetest person to me. She was really bright and adventurous and encouraging. She made me so curious. Most of all, conversation with her seemed so natural, it was completely effortless and fun to make a connection. We seemed to want "more" out of life in the same way. I never once felt like I had to put on some kind of "cool guy" attitude, I always felt that we just "got" each other so perfectly.

That's why I think it's a battle worth winning. I'm sorry if I go on and on but it's one of those things that I feel I need to solve, we only get so many chances to get life right and I've blown so many as it is. Instead of having more opportunities taken from me, I'd like to start doing some taking of my own so I can make things better. I want to turn things around.

Do you even know this guy? And by "know," I mean, you know the MAJORITY of the details of who he is and what he does. Otherwise, you are making assumptions based on your own feeling of self righteousness.
As for what girls think, you will never know that, because you aren't one, so don't speak for us. As far as people go, you can't speak for them either, because you aren't them. You are YOURSELF and you are the ONLY one you can speak for.
For example, I can just hear what you would say about some of MY friends. Yeah, they look a little rough around the edges and you sure as fuck would not want to fuck with them, but they are the kindest people anyone could ever hope to meet. And who the fuck cares if they smoke a joint here and there or get drunk or are covered in tats from head to toe. Your opinions of people don't change who those people are.

She was never YOURS. There is no battle, she didn't choose you and she likely never will. And the only thing your little "battle" will accomplish is likely her getting a restraining order on you. Give it up. Seriously, I just don't get it. Not to be harsh, but if you would put as much effort into making something of yourself or finding a girl that WOULD actually date you, you could actually maybe get somewhere in life. You could actually start moving toward what you want in life.
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