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(08-13-2014, 07:49 AM)Case Wrote: [ -> ]
(08-13-2014, 07:47 AM)InSearchOfPeople Wrote: [ -> ]
(08-13-2014, 07:44 AM)Case Wrote: [ -> ]What am I thinking? Advice is often ignored by some very stubborn people here, and it makes me wonder why I give any advice at all.

Those, you give it to, may ignore your advice, but someone else may read it and it could be helpful for that other person. Wink

Perhaps, and for this I should be grateful. Smile

Indeed. For what it's worth (given it's me :p ) I agree with most of what you say. You give good advice. Hopefully, someone is listening to it. Smile
(08-13-2014, 07:49 AM)TheRealCallie Wrote: [ -> ]Yeah, but he edits and takes the insults out, making himself appear to be the good guy and us to be the villains. He insults everyone, then turns around and tries to be the victim.

FWIW, Callie, I don't see you or Rainbows as worthy of being ignored. I've ignored some people, but they usually end up being banned anyway.
Thank you, Case. I appreciate that.
(08-12-2014, 12:43 PM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]
Feeling sad, now that it's really sinking in that the girl I loved is gone, probably for good. Not only that, but it's also really sinking in that I'm probably never going to have a relationship. And it's all my fault. I didn't cultivate an interesting enough life and attitude by the time I needed to have it, and as a result, I let all the girls that had everything I wanted slip through my fingers. I could have been so happy, having them push me to have more depth, to be more creative and adventurous. The things we could have done together, the places we could have gone, the conversations we could have had, the memories we could have created...we could have had a wonderful life together and now that will most likely never be. Now if I want a relationship, the only option left is to just pretend to be interested in someone and just play along, the whole time I'll just be sad that this is where I wound up. But I'll never truly be happy there, with someone who doesn't inspire me at all. And I could never even get the motivation to ask out someone I think is just okay, and have to slog my way through conversations about things like sports and tv shows. And I'll go the rest of my life wishing it could have been different. If I could have just fucking been the kind of person that had what they wanted, if I'd just been interesting and exciting and deep and fun and successful, I could have gotten to experience romantic love, and all of the good feelings and experiences that go along with it. Now I'll never know what it feels like to be with someone I truly want. I just want to do my life over again. I want to be someone else.

It really sucks to have to go your own way. All I can think of is that I'll never get to experience the laughter, the late-night chats, the trips, the cuddling, the warmth, the closeness that you can't get with your family or your friends. The feeling of caring and being cared for that I don't get to know. I'll never get to experience the excitement as I build a connection with someone, never get to go out and do things with just the two of us. Never get to even hug or hold hands. I suppose I should keep trying to build an interesting life in the off-chance one of the girls I wanted breaks up or gets divorced, but it's a distant hope at best. Going my own way. This is what I get to experience with my one and only life, because this is what all of my fucking choices that I've made add up to. God damn it.

Having read all the posts since this one, I have two opinions.

1) If you are being serious and honest, the only one stopping you from being happy is yourself. You sound very self absorbed, very very self absorbed. If you found more than one person who you think would make you happy, why would you assume you will never find another one? You repeatedly state how boring you find yourself, so do something interesting. Don't do it to impress anyone else, do it because you think it's interesting. No matter how bizarre your interest there will be plenty of people out there into it too. No one is going to show up and hand you what you want (if they do, they are doing you a great disservice), you have to get up and earn it. I think you need to make an effort to change what you don't like about yourself. If you can't respect yourself, you'll never be able to respect anyone else. You would benefit from helping to bring some happiness to others as well, see if it can distract you from thinking about how sorry you are for yourself. The cold truth is no one is going to fix you for you.
(08-13-2014, 07:46 AM)Lowlander Wrote: [ -> ]This is like ... I can't even remember how many times you have insulted people.

Because they provoke me. Repeatedly, after I've asked them to leave me alone, after I've told them I'm not interested in anything they have to say so they might as well stop, also repeatedly.

Even after I've told them I've Ignored you and won't read your comments anymore, they still go on.

Because when things are already bad, I have that much less patience for smugness and I run out of rope. It makes me stop caring about being nice and sunny and friendly and just makes me want to lash out.
Me thinks someone doesn't understand the concept of putting someone on ignore. If you're going to read the posts anyway, it's kind of pointless, I would say. lol

Also, for all you think you know what I mean by what I write, you do not. I don't go around insulting people, but I guess it's okay for you to do that, if you claim someone pushed you too far.
Like I said - I've Ignored you. If you don't like the things I say, why don't you just Ignore me? You, or anyone who doesn't like what I say. Just add me to your Ignore list. I never even say anything to any of you if you don't say anything to me first. I won't insult you if you won't provoke me. I'm not looking for a fight. If you don't like what I say, just Ignore my posts. That way we'll stay out of each other's way.



I see you keep replying. I don't know what for. I told you I'm not reading them. But do what you want. I'll make an official complaint if I have to.
I'm feeling very amused again.

WildernessWildChild

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(08-13-2014, 09:09 AM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]Like I said - I've Ignored you. If you don't like the things I say, why don't you just Ignore me? You, or anyone who doesn't like what I say. Just add me to your Ignore list. I never even say anything to any of you if you don't say anything to me first. I won't insult you if you won't provoke me. I'm not looking for a fight. If you don't like what I say, just Ignore my posts. That way we'll stay out of each other's way.

Um, if you don't like what I say, don't reply to it. Ignore it and stop reading my posts. I don't care what I say, that doesn't give you the right to insult me or anyone else. If I see something I don't like, I will reply to it, but I have yet to insult you or anyone else here.
I don't care if YOU think I push you, you claim to have me on ignore and totally disregard what that feature is for. So that's on you, not me. Sorry, but this is completely on you. People push me all the time, I don't resort to attacking them with insults.
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