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I have far too many flip flops right now. My counting went up to six today as I proceeded to buy three identical pairs with different colors.

I am the flip flop monster.
Life's turbulent...an endless wrestle with yourself.
(08-13-2014, 07:55 AM)stb Wrote: [ -> ]Having read all the posts since this one, I have two opinions.

1) If you are being serious and honest, the only one stopping you from being happy is yourself. You sound very self absorbed, very very self absorbed. If you found more than one person who you think would make you happy, why would you assume you will never find another one? You repeatedly state how boring you find yourself, so do something interesting. Don't do it to impress anyone else, do it because you think it's interesting. No matter how bizarre your interest there will be plenty of people out there into it too. No one is going to show up and hand you what you want (if they do, they are doing you a great disservice), you have to get up and earn it. I think you need to make an effort to change what you don't like about yourself. If you can't respect yourself, you'll never be able to respect anyone else. You would benefit from helping to bring some happiness to others as well, see if it can distract you from thinking about how sorry you are for yourself. The cold truth is no one is going to fix you for you.

Thanks for not being a jerk about it, at least. I am being serious and honest. But I assume I won't find another because it's very very rare for someone to have everything, or even most everything, that I want. My friends don't know anyone who even comes close to that. I've looked on dating sites to see who is around me, and there's really no one here who catches my eye.

It's funny because feeling sorry for oneself is unattractive. Yet now that romantic fulfillment is out of reach most likely for good now, I don't know how else I can feel. I don't attract those I want because I don't feel good about myself. Yet I don't feel good about myself because I don't attract those I want. It's a vicious cycle.

On the one hand, I see what you mean about changing what I don't like about myself. I don't like how I'm boring and never seem to get good ideas for things to do, things to create, or things to talk about. This is probably what caused things to not go my way in the first place. And it's not like I've got anything better to do.

But then again, now that they're gone, I feel like it doesn't matter what I do anymore. Even if I do change what I don't like about myself, it's too late to get what I want so it's no use. I don't believe we get infinite chances in life. I think there are windows of opportunity which open and shut. And if you don't start opening the doors that lead to the good stuff in time, the opportunities get smaller, and smaller, and smaller.

"You snooze, you lose." Truer words were never spoken.

johnny196775

I miss the cow and chicken show.

and animaniacs

sorry to stink up the place
*facepalm*
(08-13-2014, 10:25 AM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]Thanks for not being a jerk about it, at least. I am being serious and honest. But I assume I won't find another because it's very very rare for someone to have everything, or even most everything, that I want. My friends don't know anyone who even comes close to that. I've looked on dating sites to see who is around me, and there's really no one here who catches my eye.

It's funny because feeling sorry for oneself is unattractive. Yet now that romantic fulfillment is out of reach most likely for good now, I don't know how else I can feel. I don't attract those I want because I don't feel good about myself. Yet I don't feel good about myself because I don't attract those I want. It's a vicious cycle.

On the one hand, I see what you mean about changing what I don't like about myself. I don't like how I'm boring and never seem to get good ideas for things to do, things to create, or things to talk about. This is probably what caused things to not go my way in the first place. And it's not like I've got anything better to do.

But then again, now that they're gone, I feel like it doesn't matter what I do anymore. Even if I do change what I don't like about myself, it's too late to get what I want so it's no use. I don't believe we get infinite chances in life. I think there are windows of opportunity which open and shut. And if you don't start opening the doors that lead to the good stuff in time, the opportunities get smaller, and smaller, and smaller.

"You snooze, you lose." Truer words were never spoken.

I really want to see what type of women you are talking about. I want to get a good idea of their personalities and how they operate. I want to understand why you think they are so special.
People aren't really unique. Sorry, they just aren't. That woman you like? There are a bunch more just like her. You live in/near a highly populated city. I guarantee there are loads more like within a 20 mile radius.


Maybe I just don't understand. Maybe I am missing something. I don't know.

Cavey

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^^ LOL!!!!!
Kinda shitty to call someone a trainwreck and then laugh at him about it, don't you think? Whatever you think of someone here, some cosistency in the rules would be nice.

WildernessWildChild

Enhancing your calm is highly recommended.
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