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Paraiyar

(01-22-2016, 09:27 AM)BeyondShy Wrote: [ -> ]
(01-21-2016, 07:35 AM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]It's okay. Sometimes you need to let it out, without asking for advice or without the fear of judgment. I feel that this should be a safe space for people to rant when they need to.

Excuse me but that should be the case for everyone here and not just a select few.

Did he not say "this should be a safe space for people" i.e, everyone?
(01-22-2016, 09:27 AM)BeyondShy Wrote: [ -> ]
(01-21-2016, 07:35 AM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]I wish there was a way both of us could figure out how we could make money and do something we liked at the same time.

Do you realize how many people work at jobs that they hate for an entire career just to get paid? Sure it sucks but they have no choice. I hope no one in here has to do that.

I do, and it makes me angry and sad to think about it, to think about all the time we're forced to waste, to think about people never realizing their dreams or potential. It's punishment for existing. This is why I feel like the job world is like a big jail of sorts. I hope no one in here has to do that either.

(01-22-2016, 09:27 AM)BeyondShy Wrote: [ -> ]
(01-21-2016, 07:35 AM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]It's okay. Sometimes you need to let it out, without asking for advice or without the fear of judgment. I feel that this should be a safe space for people to rant when they need to.

Excuse me but that should be the case for everyone here and not just a select few.

I agree. It should be a safe space for people to open up.



(01-22-2016, 09:30 AM)Paraiyar Wrote: [ -> ]Did he not say "this should be a safe space for people" i.e, everyone?

Indeed, I meant everyone. Everyone should be able to speak out here, because so often you can't in real life. Either no one can help you even if they wanted to, or you can't open up because there are those around who would use it against you. That leaves us with the Internet as an outlet, because bottling this stuff up inside too long would just drive a person crazy.
(01-22-2016, 12:08 PM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]I do, and it makes me angry and sad to think about it, to think about all the time we're forced to waste, to think about people never realizing their dreams or potential. It's punishment for existing. This is why I feel like the job world is like a big jail of sorts. I hope no one in here has to do that either.

I can't dispute what you are saying. In some ways it is like a jail because you got to be there to get that paycheck so you can pay the mortgage, get food, etc, etc.

I'm lucky that this is something that has not affected me during my working career.

(01-22-2016, 12:08 PM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]I agree. It should be a safe space for people to open up.

This is a safe place to open up. It just depends on who you are. You can open up at any time. Me? Not so much. Because people actually listen to you.

(01-22-2016, 12:08 PM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]Indeed, I meant everyone. Everyone should be able to speak out here, because so often you can't in real life. Either no one can help you even if they wanted to, or you can't open up because there are those around who would use it against you.


Everyone should be able to but can they? Not in here anyway. If I say what I think right now and what is bothering me 700 people out of 1000 won't care and the other 300 will claim they never saw it.

Paraiyar

^You can still speak out. People might disagree or not say anything but we aren't going to burn you at the stake.
(01-22-2016, 12:44 PM)Paraiyar Wrote: [ -> ]^You can still speak out. People might disagree or not say anything but we aren't going to burn you at the stake.

Oh I know that won't happen because that means some may have to make an effort concerning me. It's hard to speak out knowing that whatever you say is ignored.

Anyway, thank you. Thanks for telling me I can still speak out. I appreciate it.
(01-22-2016, 09:27 AM)BeyondShy Wrote: [ -> ]The only thing I am sure of is that whatever you share will be met with understanding and compassion.

I wish I were as sure of that. =/

(01-22-2016, 12:08 PM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]or you can't open up because there are those around who would use it against you.

Unfortunately the same is often just as true of people online. Sad

(01-22-2016, 12:08 PM)TheSkaFish Wrote: [ -> ]because bottling this stuff up inside too long would just drive a person crazy.

Too true.
(01-20-2016, 10:55 AM)BeyondShy Wrote: [ -> ]Why would anyone want to ignore this? I mean you will because I wrote this but all you did was say how you felt.

(01-22-2016, 01:00 PM)BeyondShy Wrote: [ -> ]Oh I know that won't happen because that means some may have to make an effort concerning me. It's hard to speak out knowing that whatever you say is ignored.

It's stuff like that...

You can take that as hostile or not, but I'll just say: You got yourself into that position. You have a history of passive-aggressiveness which proceeds you. It ain't nice when people don't respond to your posts, but just because you responded to some of theirs doesn't mean they'll do the same for you. Especially if the consequence is that they are compelled to reply to everything you say from now on, just so you don't take an opportunity to put yourself into the ground and get pissed at them. Nobody owes you anything, just like the boy at the checkout line. No matter if it's the sharing of a personal story, a nice gesture, a creative piece or a message of condolence.

I'm saying this because I got a reputation on my own: I don't like it when people pity me even when I post personal stuff and the consequence is that they don't. My art is mostly unaccessible and the consequence is that people reply very little. And don't get me started on my internet bullshit thread. Goodness, I couldn't get pissed everytime people don't respond with a "LOL" to a funny picture.

This my opinion, feel free to dump it in the trash.

Paraiyar

BeyondShy, I think what people are trying to say is that you'll find life better if you ease up on the defensiveness a bit. No one on this forum is out to get you so just worry less Smile
I am feeling so overwhelmed at the moment, everything feels so hard. It is a good job I have my friends to make me laugh and talk to, and swapping messages with a nice man, who 'seems' to be thoughtful and funny.
wondering why everyone I meet stays at a distance, it's always like I am alone deserted in an island, and people get close to the shore, but never reach close enough to touch - I wish I had a volleyball to call Wilson...
Can't wait to have a therapist to help me understand why I am so bloody hideous to everyone
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