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Discuss.

Positive self-talk can help they say.
I think that requires talking in the mirror.
I've tried the talking in the mirror thing, but it feels completely insincere to me, like I'm just reading a fortune cookie out loud.
Make yourself a gratitude list. List all the positive attributes of yourself. Look at it every time you feel down about yourself. If you can, have someone close to you do the same thing for you. Have them write down positive attributes that they think you have.

I don't think you need to have a full conversation with yourself in the mirror, but if you are going out and feel anxious about it, just tell yourself that you CAN do it, that it will be fine.
If you have an interview or college assignment or something like that, just tell yourself that you are ready, that you are prepared, that it will be fine. Because even if you don't get the job or do as well as you wanted to, you will know (assuming you did prepare for it), that you did your best and you can try again with the next interview/assignment/whatever.
If it's a date, just tell yourself that you are a good person, that you are worth knowing and take into consideration that even if it doesn't go well, that doesn't mean you are worthless or a horrible person, it just means that you weren't a good fit for this one person.
Although conventional wisdom would tell you, that better self esteem is something you should be able to create/nurture by yourself - to me personally, I've found that other people I've met have been instrumental as well, lately.

It's as 'simple' as being nice to others and they might be nice and find you interesting to be around too. A woman I talk really well with, asked for my facebook recently when we had our last day together, at a place we both attended. She asked me, before I had the chance to ask her, which was really nice, considering she's one of the quite shy ones.
I find self talk only goes so far. You can stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself you’re not ugly, and tell yourself all the good things you like about yourself, but when you still don’t meet people, nobody wants you or will touch you, and you can’t even find anyone on the internet to talk and have a connection with, well, all of that shouts a lot louder to me than any self affamation process does. Having someone to talk just does wonders for me. There just isn’t anyone who wants to.

Paraiyar

(11-21-2017, 03:03 PM)Cucuboth Wrote: [ -> ]I find self talk only goes so far. You can stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself you’re not ugly, and tell yourself all the good things you like about yourself, but when you still don’t meet people, nobody wants you or will touch you, and you can’t even find anyone on the internet to talk and have a connection with, well, all of that shouts a lot louder to me than any self affamation process does. Having someone to talk just does wonders for me. There just isn’t anyone who wants to.

You say that you haven't found anyone on the internet to talk to but you never replied to my message in PMs....
Nevermind (PM sent instead)
(11-19-2017, 10:39 PM)Azariah Wrote: [ -> ]Discuss.

Positive self-talk can help they say.
I think that requires talking in the mirror.

I wouldn't think so. Right after one wakes up, or right before we go to bed, or any random time during the day, perhaps we could say one nice thing about ourselves or our surroundings. Just something to boost ourselves a bit. Doesn't need to be fancy or in-depth.

GizmonicScrewdriver

Well, new studies say that talking to yourself in the mirror can actually cause a strange effect on you do it too long.
As in you feel you are out of your own body and it's not you.
Have to take it with any psychology with a grain of salt.

That or Biggie Smalls shows up. Toungue
There are no steps, only realizations.
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