What are you thinking right now?

[ardour]

Reading the older age group dating subs and coming away feeling annoyed and worse than ever.

For reasons that are difficult to pin down, every other comment really bothers me. I think it's the self-righteous tone, the biting at the bit to judge others for any perceived fault that grates.

Pick any post and regardless of the gender of the author it's likely to annoy and leave me in worse state, realizing just how little in common I have with the typical single person near my age.

Even with the negativity on forever alone and the virgin sub, to read words from those who don't think the sun shines out of their behinds is a refreshing change from all that.

Lives that appear so dull and settled. And I thought my life was dull. I guess this is what happens when people get to be young and have critical life experience: There's no need to repeat all of that and look for much more in the way of excitement and 'adventure.' Life has become a series of routines around which companionship is fit.


I feel something bordering on irrational hatred reading it. Really I probably shouldn't spend any more time in those spaces.

 

[Claudia1794]

Reading the older age group dating subs and coming away feeling annoyed and worse than ever.

For reasons that are difficult to pin down, every other comment really bothers me. I think it's the self-righteous tone, the biting at the bit to judge others for any perceived fault that grates.

Pick any post and regardless of the gender of the author it's likely to annoy and leave me in worse state, realizing just how little in common I have with the typical single person near my age.

Even with the negativity on forever alone and the virgin sub, to read words from those who don't think the sun shines out of their behinds is a refreshing change from all that.

Lives that appear so dull and settled. And I thought my life was dull. I guess this is what happens when people get to be young and have critical life experience: There's no need to repeat all of that and look for much more in the way of excitement and 'adventure.' Life has become a series of routines around which companionship is fit.


I feel something bordering on irrational hatred reading all that. Really I probably shouldn't spend any more time in those spaces.

No, you really shouldn’t. I have people ask me all the time”don’t you think you are getting too old for that” THAT being everything I do because apparently I act like I’m young. fresia them. I’m sure as hell not dead and as long as I’m able I’m going to do it.

 

[TropicalStarfish]

Reading the older age group dating subs and coming away feeling annoyed and worse than ever.

For reasons that are difficult to pin down, every other comment really bothers me. I think it's the self-righteous tone, the biting at the bit to judge others for any perceived fault, that grates.

Pick any post and regardless of the gender of the author it's likely to annoy and leave me in worse state, realizing how little in common I have with the typical single person near my age. Even with the negativity on foreveralone and the virgin sub, to read words from those who don't think the sun shines out of their behinds is a refreshing change.

Lives that appear so dull and settled. And I thought my life was dull. I guess this is what happens when people get to be young and have critical life experience: There's no need to repeat all of that and look for much more in the way of excitement and 'adventure.' Life has become a series of routines around which a desire for companionship is fit.

I feel something bordering on irrational contempt reading it at times. I can't stand these people.

Brooding so much on such a specific theme...

You're biggest problem is your own mind-set.

Have a lot of people dated, and even started families by their mid 30's? Sure; but, not everyone.

Reign in your mind. Imagine all that you feel you've missed out on. Imagine all you feel that prevents you from getting what you want. Imagine these things are in the palm of your hand. Now put your hand in front of your face, so that's all you can see, is your hand. What do you see? Now move your hand slowly away from your face, till it's as far from your face as it can be. What do you see now? With your hand not so close to your face, can you see more now?

I don't know how populace the area you live in is; but, I imagine that, there are literally thousands of ladies, either single or divorced, between the ages of 25 and 40. So, set aside a certain amount of time, each week, where you practice trying to engage with that particular world and life you desire to be a part of. If seeking out those things for one hour each day, leaves you feeling defeated, dejected, and depressed; then you are trying to lift a weight that is too heavy for you. Work that muscle, so it gains strength; and don't over exert yourself, to avoid the negative mindset that tells you (this won't work, I can't do it, life is unfair, things will never change, it's too late).

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Everyday is a new beginning. Those are facts.

Ever notice that, when you are trying to remember something, really hard, it seems just out of reach? But, if you let it go, and move on to other things, maybe a few minutes later, maybe hours later, maybe days later, BAM, suddenly that thing you were trying to remember pops back into your head, without you even trying? Or, ever notice how, when you are working on a puzzle, and you get stuck, you begin to become tired, frustrated, and dejected; but, if you come back to it later, with a fresh mind, suddenly you can start putting some pieces together?

The mind is a powerful thing. It can be a great ally, or a formidable foe.

You pay your taxes, right? You're going to die some day just like those people who irritate you, right? So how are you and them so different, except in your mind? And if they see you as different in your mind, why help them out, by holding on to the same erroneous view point?

There's children with cancer who won't live to see things you have 20 some years to still have a chance at. My uncle was 48 when he met his futre wife at 27. Check yourself a bit.

Protip: associating with people who use the word, 'normie,' is very unlikely to help you in life.

 

[ardour]

Brooding so much on such a specific theme...

You're biggest problem is your own mind-set.

Have a lot of people dated, and even started families by their mid 30's? Sure; but, not everyone.

Reign in your mind. Imagine all that you feel you've missed out on. Imagine all you feel that prevents you from getting what you want. Imagine these things are in the palm of your hand. Now put your hand in front of your face, so that's all you can see, is your hand. What do you see? Now move your hand slowly away from your face, till it's as far from your face as it can be. What do you see now? With your hand not so close to your face, can you see more now?

I don't know how populace the area you live in is; but, I imagine that, there are literally thousands of ladies, either single or divorced, between the ages of 25 and 40. So, set aside a certain amount of time, each week, where you practice trying to engage with that particular world and life you desire to be a part of. If seeking out those things for one hour each day, leaves you feeling defeated, dejected, and depressed; then you are trying to lift a weight that is too heavy for you. Work that muscle, so it gains strength; and don't over exert yourself, to avoid the negative mindset that tells you (this won't work, I can't do it, life is unfair, things will never change, it's too late).

Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Everyday is a new beginning. Those are facts.

Ever notice that, when you are trying to remember something, really hard, it seems just out of reach? But, if you let it go, and move on to other things, maybe a few minutes later, maybe hours later, maybe days later, BAM, suddenly that thing you were trying to remember pops back into your head, without you even trying? Or, ever notice how, when you are working on a puzzle, and you get stuck, you begin to become tired, frustrated, and dejected; but, if you come back to it later, with a fresh mind, suddenly you can start putting some pieces together?

The mind is a powerful thing. It can be a great ally, or a formidable foe.

You pay your taxes, right? You're going to die some day just like those people who irritate you, right? So how are you and them so different, except in your mind? And if they see you as different in your mind, why help them out, by holding on to the same erroneous view point?

There's children with cancer who won't live to see puberty. Check yourself a bit.

Every time I try to get into the 'rest of my life' mindset I hit the same wall over and over, my age peer group being that wall.

It's not so much what they're saying, it's how they're saying it; it's the preachy neurotic tone of people with baggage up to their ears having lived full adult lives that I find utterly unrelatable.

As for finding a 25-40 year old, I have considered the options. There just aren't the opportunities for it. OLD won't work and meetups have emptied out post COVID. Every avenue is shut off. My aunt is hopelessly out of date with some of her ideas but her suggestion of just talking to random women in stores or out in public is probably as good as any.

 

[TropicalStarfish]

Every time I try to get into the 'rest of my life' mindset I hit the same wall over and over, my age peer group being that wall.

It's not so much what they're saying, it's how they're saying it; it's the preachy neurotic tone of people with baggage up to their ears having lived full adult lives that I find utterly unrelatable.

As for finding a 25-40 year old, I have considered the options. There just aren't the opportunities for it. OLD won't work and meetups have emptied out post COVID. Every avenue is shut off. My Aunt is hopelessly out of date with some of her ideas but her suggestion of just talking to random women in stores or out in public is probably as good as any.

Create a tinder account, swipe right 100 times, and take the first lady who responds out to get sushi. Order some saki. Enjoy the time spent without worrying about getting married or becoming a thing.

I don't have honeysuckle figured out either man. But, I am at least aware of the bitterness, anger, and rage within me. Some of it is justifiable; but, doesn't have any justifiable means of expressing it. I've other issues too.

I meditate. I'm not saying it solves anything; but, I do it. Do you have a temple nearby? Are you Christian? Find a church? Atheist? Join a humanist center/group. Hiking groups? Join a gym, get buff? Learn you some martial arts? Learn to fly a plane? etc.. etc.. Get into photography, photography groups (if you don't meet anyone at any of those things, at least you get exercise, good experience, and photos.) You could join survival/prepper groups and learn you some: how to shoot a bow, how to fire a gun, how to do this or that.

Pick up some hobbies to have more to talk about than just pseudo-intellectual garbage from angry virgin forums...

You could go back to school, chicks will be there. It will be hit or miss, but hey you could learn something. Stick to the liberal arts, go for fun, to meet people, make aquiantances, etc.. Learn a new language, then travel to that country and chill for a couple weeks, invite others to join you...

Take up botany, learn to grow things. What a wonderful thing to watch something grow.

Travel, near or far...

I've been on this forum for 12-13 years now? Haven't met any compatible women here yet, or in my house. I met ladies when I was regularly attending some kind of social function: ie: school, a group of some kind.

Hell, go troll mental health groups in your area, and pretend to be bipolar or depressed or obsessive or something.

I do the same thing as you. I barely put my feet in the water, and then I say, "TOO COLD." And I quit. The hot tub is always too hot when you first get in; but, when you acclimate to it, it's nice for a while.

It can be fun to hate like a hater's gunna hate; but, man, it doesn't compare to living, and enjoying life. Even a food critic enjoys a meal now and then..

The old saying goes, "better late than never."

 

[Butterfly 2]

Every time I try to get into the 'rest of my life' mindset I hit the same wall over and over, my age peer group being that wall.

It's not so much what they're saying, it's how they're saying it; it's the preachy neurotic tone of people with baggage up to their ears having lived full adult lives that I find utterly unrelatable.

As for finding a 25-40 year old, I have considered the options. There just aren't the opportunities for it. OLD won't work and meetups have emptied out post COVID. Every avenue is shut off. My Aunt is hopelessly out of date with some of her ideas but her suggestion of just talking to random women in stores or out in public is probably as good as any.

I don't think you and I are even talking about the same generation, and we aren't even talking about the same type of forums, (I'm not on dating forums) but I absolutely understand. One would think that I would prefer the AARP forum, but I can't stand some of the insanity of some people from my own generation and I often wonder what happened to them throughout life since my generation seemed to have so much life and tolerance in it decades ago. Just check it out sometime if you want a good laugh to see how judgmental and nasty people can be on there. I haven't amused myself and read on there for a few years now.

The Villages also had a website that I read on a few years ago and was just shaking my head. Too many 60 and 70 year old women acted like they were teenage girls ready for battle. Judgmental, nasty, intolerant, racist, bossy, and I could go on. I do read the letters to the editor that come out of the villages on occasion and some are absolutely unbelievable whining about other people's grandchildren being there using their amenities like the pool, etc.

The community I live in had an older vibe until about a year ago and thankfully, some young to middle-aged people moved in here and life is much more pleasant. Wish I had the answer, but I just wanted to let you know you aren't alone in how you feel

 

[Butterfly 2]

Every time I try to get into the 'rest of my life' mindset I hit the same wall over and over, my age peer group being that wall.

It's not so much what they're saying, it's how they're saying it; it's the preachy neurotic tone of people with baggage up to their ears having lived full adult lives that I find utterly unrelatable.

As for finding a 25-40 year old, I have considered the options. There just aren't the opportunities for it. OLD won't work and meetups have emptied out post COVID. Every avenue is shut off. My Aunt is hopelessly out of date with some of her ideas but her suggestion of just talking to random women in stores or out in public is probably as good as any.

I'm with your aunt. Her advice might sound out of date, but the old-fashioned way might still be the best way.

 

[Melli12]

Why is it to hard to find Friends?

 

[Galen]

I mean, that's basically what you'd have to give them. Cheese toast and a cup of unflavored tea.

It's staggering what the public can come out with or do at times. I've had similar work based experiences myself, I could write a book about some of the jaw-dropping shite I've had to deal with be it patients or other people working within the healthcare sector.

 

[randomguy]

Has anybody else noticed that the " & " symbol looks like a man dragging his arse across the floor?

 

[TropicalStarfish]

Has anybody else noticed that the " & " symbol looks like a man dragging his arse across the floor?

No. And now I'm sad because I can't unsee it. **** you.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Has anybody else noticed that the " & " symbol looks like a man dragging his arse across the floor?

I see a dog in the "sit" pose, thumping his tail against the ground excitedly

 

[Rohini]

Has anybody else noticed that the " & " symbol looks like a man dragging his arse across the floor?

It doesss!
It's also exactly what cats do when they have worms. Poor little guys.
Add some cat ears and a tail to the symbol.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Got my COVID booster the other day. I still have a knot of muscle soreness in my arm. It should go away in a few days. I've had this muscle knot at the injection site every time I've had one of these shots, but that's the only side effect I've ever had from them.

I'm getting tired of getting these shots - this makes 4 now, before this I don't think I had a shot since 2011 or so when I had some dental work done - but I'd rather do this than get the disease, and it's good to get it out of the way. And I'll be all ready to go visit my brother for Thanksgiving.

 

[Butterfly 2]

It's good to hear that you got your shot! The only time I had a side effect was when I got my first one and it seems like it was more related to the person who gave it to me because my arm puffed all up and she had to keep patting it to get it to settle down. It hurt quite a lot for a couple of days and that was the only time I had any problem with it. Did you get the Pfizer Bio N Tech?

 

[user15010]

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[Claudia1794]

Addiction

 

[randomguy]

Nothing brings a group of arseholes together faster than something that's none of their ******* business.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Seriously wanna put beads in RandomGuys hair, I think it's a great career move, as he can use his hair as maracas

 

[randomguy]

Seriously wanna put beads in RandomGuys hair, I think it's a great career move, as he can use his hair as maracas

Hahaha, when I lived in India I used to wear beads and braids in my hair .... it's not really a look that works on the mean streets of south London, this lot think hoodies and jogging bottoms are the height of fashion. :wankers ( why isn't there a wanker emoji? )