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J360 said:
No I moved to a different state to put separation between them. I thought it would be the best thing for growth
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Another "state" doesn't change the mental and emotional damage a true narcissist can do to a person... especially if it was her parent. It's one thing to use that term and another for it to be true. The reality is, most "moms" are actually forms of sociopaths that abuse their children emotionally. Either way, your wife needed counseling and/or positive things in her life to help "cure" the insecurities that come with being raised by a beast. There aren't thousands of books about toxic parents because it's NOT a thing.

Here's what I'll ask you to do: Look at it from her point of view for a brief second... it was SUCH a small deal to YOU. What if... What if she was having a "low" day... she was hella depressed and the thing that would cheer her up in the middle of her day was to hear YOUR voice. The man who, for all she knows, finally, provides her unconditional love. And you tell her, STOP DOING THAT.
Now, I'm not saying that as a business owner you don't have every right to need to not answer phone calls throughout the day... but, how you actually voiced it may have hurt her more than you know.
That's not to ALSO say that 15 years is a very long time to bring up a past hurt... at this point, she just needs emotional help, for sure. Because the reality is, I've been in plenty of relationships that I sure don't have to go back THAT far to find something to be upset about.... LMBO

Anyway, I'm just saying that moving someone away from a toxic situation doesn't mean that they are automatically fixed...
Personally, I would find someway to suggest that you guys either need counseling together since you can't get past this event or individually?

But, what do I know? I'm a widow who never wants to be married again for exactly THIS reason! lololol
 
sparkyn98 said:
Another "state" doesn't change the mental and emotional damage a true narcissist can do to a person... especially if it was her parent. It's one thing to use that term and another for it to be true. The reality is, most "moms" are actually forms of sociopaths that abuse their children emotionally. Either way, your wife needed counseling and/or positive things in her life to help "cure" the insecurities that come with being raised by a beast. There aren't thousands of books about toxic parents because it's NOT a thing.

Here's what I'll ask you to do: Look at it from her point of view for a brief second... it was SUCH a small deal to YOU. What if... What if she was having a "low" day... she was hella depressed and the thing that would cheer her up in the middle of her day was to hear YOUR voice. The man who, for all she knows, finally, provides her unconditional love. And you tell her, STOP DOING THAT.
Now, I'm not saying that as a business owner you don't have every right to need to not answer phone calls throughout the day... but, how you actually voiced it may have hurt her more than you know.
That's not to ALSO say that 15 years is a very long time to bring up a past hurt... at this point, she just needs emotional help, for sure. Because the reality is, I've been in plenty of relationships that I sure don't have to go back THAT far to find something to be upset about.... LMBO

Anyway, I'm just saying that moving someone away from a toxic situation doesn't mean that they are automatically fixed...
Personally, I would find someway to suggest that you guys either need counseling together since you can't get past this event or individually?

But, what do I know? I'm a widow who never wants to be married again for exactly THIS reason! lololol
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Thanks for your input
 
J360 said:
Thanks for your input
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sparkyn98 said:
Another "state" doesn't change the mental and emotional damage a true narcissist can do to a person... especially if it was her parent. It's one thing to use that term and another for it to be true. The reality is, most "moms" are actually forms of sociopaths that abuse their children emotionally. Either way, your wife needed counseling and/or positive things in her life to help "cure" the insecurities that come with being raised by a beast. There aren't thousands of books about toxic parents because it's NOT a thing.

Here's what I'll ask you to do: Look at it from her point of view for a brief second... it was SUCH a small deal to YOU. What if... What if she was having a "low" day... she was hella depressed and the thing that would cheer her up in the middle of her day was to hear YOUR voice. The man who, for all she knows, finally, provides her unconditional love. And you tell her, STOP DOING THAT.
Now, I'm not saying that as a business owner you don't have every right to need to not answer phone calls throughout the day... but, how you actually voiced it may have hurt her more than you know.
That's not to ALSO say that 15 years is a very long time to bring up a past hurt... at this point, she just needs emotional help, for sure. Because the reality is, I've been in plenty of relationships that I sure don't have to go back THAT far to find something to be upset about.... LMBO

Anyway, I'm just saying that moving someone away from a toxic situation doesn't mean that they are automatically fixed...
Personally, I would find someway to suggest that you guys either need counseling together since you can't get past this event or individually?

But, what do I know? I'm a widow who never wants to be married again for exactly THIS reason! lololol
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Sorry your marriage was so awful that being alone seems joyful. I herd something that I try apply in my life. Attitudes are contagious is your worth catching.
 
J360 said:
Sorry your marriage was so awful that being alone seems joyful. I herd something that I try apply in my life. Attitudes are contagious is your worth catching.
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Just so you know my wife thinks therapists do more harm than good we’ve tried 3 and she quit and will never walk through another’s one door again. So as it goes I can’t force someone to get better if they don’t want to. When the student is ready the master will appear.
 

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