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Nero72

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Hi everyone! I am 50 year old man from London. I was born in Italy but lived most of my life in the UK. I have been married for almost 20 years, however in the last few years my wife and I have drifted away, and right now we share very little, apart from a joint love for our son. I am also a workaholic, as a result of which I have very little time to make friends, either in person or online. Sometimes I think it would be helpful to have someone to keep me away from my work. Today I am forcing myself not to work, but I'm not sure how long it's going to last.
 
Welcome, hope you find some friends here.

I am also a workaholic, as a result of which I have very little time to make friends, either in person or online. Sometimes I think it would be helpful to have someone to keep me away from my work.
Very relateable, I'm a chronic workaholic. I prioritize work over pretty much everything in my life, so much so that it's become almost an escape for me from real life. I'll hide away from the scary stuff in life by just piling on more work.

One of the best points in my life was when I had someone who was able to keep me away from work, someone who has that power is a very powerful someone indeed -- especially for a workaholic.
 
Thanks. I think it's similar for me, made "worse", in a sense, by the fact that I enjoy my work, and I can never do anything in moderation. Even my hobbies, like learning foreign languages or going to the gym, become tasks which I take to extreme levels.

Earlier I was lying down on the bed, imagining I was with a non-existent friend who was preventing me from working. I felt totally exhausted. Then I grabbed a Russian grammar textbook and forgot all about resting.
 
Nero, welcome! I can relate to the thing about being a workaholic, but now I am older and retired and I'm really starting to wonder what I was thinking.

But yes, that is probably one of the safest "holics" to be.
 
Greetings Mr. Nero 🙂 I too am 20 years married and came to realize other than sharing a house, we have little in common 😕 what can we do? 🤔 I look at our relationship almost as a business partnership. Tackling issues in a diplomatic way. Think that is how all marriages end up after 20 years. Any hoot, just wanted to say hello! And I can relate what to your situation. Cheers!
 
Greetings Mr. Nero 🙂 I too am 20 years married and came to realize other than sharing a house, we have little in common 😕 what can we do? 🤔 I look at our relationship almost as a business partnership. Tackling issues in a diplomatic way. Think that is how all marriages end up after 20 years. Any hoot, just wanted to say hello! And I can relate what to your situation. Cheers!
Thanks. I have a similar relationship with my wife. She spends most of her time on her smartphone. Whenever she's not interacting with our toddler son, she's reading stuff on her phone or typing in it (she doesn't have a job).

Until a few years ago we were still united by our common wish to have a child. When we finally succeeded, after years of trying, we started drifting away, except for stuff concerning the baby.

I have been tempted to look for someone else. I don't think my wife would care. I know there are dating sites for married people, but I am not interested in having an affair, only in a meaningful relationship.
 

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