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Update : I have not been able to go there until now, due to money issues. I want to have enough saved up so I don't need to work for 3-4 months at least while I settle in my new hometown. On the positive side - I have found some decent lodgings with the help of the person who owns the bed and...

Well I don't have any friends left as all are married and have kids so we don't really click anymore. I am 36 and I know that I have no option left but to leave. I am saving up so I don't have to work for 3-4 months while I settle in my new city and then look for friends. What I liked about my...

Update : I visited my new city and stayed there for 4 days. Loved it. I am going there in a few days again. I did enjoy that city and talked to people but yes, I did miss my hometown. Over the past few days I have been thinking and I know that staying back is not really an option for me, but...

I will be following this thread as I am in the exact same situation - friends married and moved off, no girlfriend. I am also afraid of life passing me by so I am trying this. Tiger lily you can try this as well. Go to that city for a week or so and see the various options that you have. You...

Some people do not take online relationships seriously. They talk online for fun and once they have had it, they dump people and go on with "real" life friends. Keep a balanced approach towards your online and offline relations, and you won't get hurt. I found out recently that we can make...

Thank you Peter :) I am getting familiar with forum usage. A very good day to you Poguesy :D

Thank you OCI :) I agree with you and Sierra, this is a nice place. I am going blazing offline here, talking to people and generally having a nice time. Coming to A Lonely Life was lucky for me :D

Thank you OCI355A. I went through what you are a very long time back, in fact some of my friends are parents to teenagers, and I won't be meeting them anymore (have not for more than 10 years). The closest to me is the father of a 3 year old, and we do not click anymore. Quite a few of my...

Hello SherryGee :D

Thank you for replying. sierra - Most people are nervous, yeah, but my problem is compounded by the fact that I did not talk to anyone for years. Except for essential conversation, I totally withdrew into myself. I am talking to people now though, maybe with some practice I can talk to gals...

Yes, I used to talk to myself a lot but it has come down lately. A psychiatrist once told me this when I asked her if it was normal - "That's natural when you've got nobody to talk to". I kept her words in mind and am sharing with you today :D That's perfectly natural when you've got nobody to...

I have been wondering about this for a long time now. After having recovered from an anxiety disorder that I had for years, I am now normal and I seriously want to have a girlfriend. Now there are girls around some times, but my tongue is tied when it comes to asking them out for a cup of coffee...

"You might be able to win her back. You need to show her that you are strong and confident, not desperate. Be like you were when you first hooked up with her. You might even show her some disinterest so she feels that she's losing you. " I agree with this advice here. Ignore her completely, do...

Thanks for replying Michael, Bread, Sci-fi, dramaqueen. I felt so light after the tears stopped and I think that crying is good. Funny as a child we are told "men don't cry" and I did not for decades. Now the tears come by themselves and when I feel them coming I go to a secluded place and stay...

Thank you Michael. I don't know what's come over me today. I am sitting in a cybercafe cabin and crying. Some time back when I was newly recovered I was so happy and now being alone hurts.