Recent content by Claire1978

Hmmm... Well, I seem to have the same problem as you, so I am not sure how much help I will be. I often feel that way in groups - as though I need to be contributing something worthwhile in conversation in order to be considered fun or likable. It is great that you have been able to make new...

Helena, I can relate to some of the root issues you struggle with, and I commend you for recognizing how these events have impacted you and for trying to overcome them. It is nice to have you here.

I just joined yesterday, so I never knew you - but if you do decide to come back, I look forward to getting to know you.

Thank you all for your replies. After giving it some thought, perhaps it is just the result of my recent break up (4 days ago) that has made me feel inadequate this way. I think I will feel better about myself if I stay true to who I am, and if a guy doesn't love me completely just as I am, we...

Well said. I am just coming out of a relationship that ended when the chase did. I am slow to open up, but once I do, things seem to fizzle. I hate that I feel I can't show a man how much I like him, or be there for him, without it becoming a turn off.

My health insurance covers mine. If that is not an option, you could look into sliding scale and/or free services. At least you are taking a positive step by being here now. Even though I am new here, I am already finding this forum to be pretty good therapy - it is so nice to meet so many...

I started seeing a therapist a couple of months ago to help me deal with my social anxiety and my fear of people not liking me once they get to know me. It has helped a lot. And a lot of times it's nice just to have someone to talk to. I think it's important to find the right one, though. I...

Thank you, Gothmother. I appreciate your insight. I spent my entire 20s with men who had no problem with my size, and I suppose I was spoiled a bit that way. Perhaps I just had more confidence then? It is true I never gave it much thought then - I was so much more carefree. I guess dating just...

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Thank you for your reply, and also for welcoming me to the forum in my introduction post. You do make a good point. Ultimately, it is comfort with myself that I seek. And I personally don't find my bra size a turnoff, but that's because I've never thought such a superficial trait should matter...

This is rather personal, but I am a stranger here, so the medium works: I am small-chested (32A), but also very thin, so I am somewhat proportionate, but I still believe I am lacking in that area. I look fine in clothes (thank you, Victoria's Secret), but I have found I am shy and reluctant for...

I am new here (only my second post, after my introduction), but I could really relate to what you said, Silvernight. Whether it's friends or romantic relationships, I want to make any person in my life think I actually have a life of my own and that I don't need them too much. As a result, I...

Hello, I am 30, female, and live in Portland Oregon. I have been divorced for almost two years, and am slow to get back into dating. I also have a hard time making friends outside of work, and I spend much of my time by myself. I have been perusing some of the threads posted here, and you all...