Recent content by dd11

I guess I thought this was a board where you could really say how you feel. Whether or not is "right". Kind of like a previous thread where we talked about verbalizing your loneliness and in reality, you can't. You can't admit it out loud because it makes you look like a sad sack. But, that...

Well ok then.   Wow.  Guess i shouldn't be teaching my daughter to be considerate of her other friends if she was invited to something they werent.  Sorry i expressed my feelings.

That's a difficult situation. My neighbor's granddaughter was in jail and she would take her grandkids to see her from time to time. But, it is what it is. I wouldnt over expose her to it.

People dont get "cured". They get "management". They learn to manage their illness. Diabetes doesn't go away because your blood sugars are under control with insulin. For some, depression is situational or temporary. So, yes, in those instances, there is a cure. There are people who have...

How do you feel when you hear others around talking about the party, bbq, shower, event, etc with other coworkers?  I know we arent' children anymore but sometimes it seems like maybe people could be a little more considerate when they are going on about their gatherings that you weren't invited...

Other than DH and my kids, there really isnt anyone who would care if i was dead. At some point either DH or I will be completely alone . The kids are growing up and moving on to their lives.

It's painful and it sucks. Frankly i just dont have the energy any more to keep trying.

We all have challenges in life. It's a step back. I know that sometimes it is hard to pull up the effort. But, sometimes what looks like a problem can turn out to be an opportunity to move in another direction.

Is this a "for fun" group or a competitive type group? If you are playing competitive games, then maybe that isn't for you. If you aren't good at it, don't enjoy it and aren't getting something out of it other than grief, then why keep going? It's OK to try something and discover that it...

You need HEALTHY relationships. This isn't healthy and you know it. You have to think of it like this. Spending your time talking and being involved with her is time you are not spending working on yourself, enjoying your own life or meeting other people. You are wasting your time on a road...

I told my son "the ability to keep your mouth shut is one of the greatest skills you will ever learn". A job is your means to live. Is it worth venting your anger for a few min of satisfaction and then lose your job? We all have to deal with that. Go to work, be quiet and do your job.

I have had sense of loneliness my whole life. I think it is just part of my being no matter how many people i have had around me. It is an existential loneliness. However, I think that some of us just live quieter, more solitary lives. There is nothing wrong with that. Maybe we need to...

Low self esteem can be addressed. Actions precede feelings. DO some things that make you feel competent and accomplished. I have never shied away from tackling things. Learn to play a new instrument, bake a new dish, go to a craft class and create something. Or wash the windows. You gain...

I went through a period of depression and acted like an ass. Have i forgiven myself? For a long time, i beat myself up daily. However, over time, i have been able to put this behind me. I didn't do anything terrible, just acted like an ass and now feel foolish and stupid. But, it happens...

I think that you have to shift your focus. Go to volunteer to volunteer. Focus on the good you are doing. And, if you interact with some people, simply ENJOY their company for what it is and don't try to turn it into a long term friendship if it isn't meant to be. Most of the time, you will...