Recent content by ihabl

I can relate, when I was 20 I couldn't talk to a girl without blushing. I didn't have a serious girlfriend a few years later. I became more confident and after we broke up I dated a couple of other girls before I met my wife. You are not the only one who feels this way. Most guys get nervous...

thanks for replying guys.....i don't have many places where i can vent and open up like this.....

in the last few years. I realize that I'm the weirdo that no one wants to hang around. This is not some pity party or someone with a low self-esteem. In high school I was the best athlete in my school of 1,200 students. I received a football scholarship to a division one college. I also...

I enjoy being by myself. When I'm at a social gathering I count down to when it's appropriate to go home. I've been like this as long as I can remember. Missed out on a lot but did what I wanted to do. When I do converse with people I can get intense. My wife thinks this is why people don't...

All good advice, I guess my success rate is not very good. I have a hard time connecting with others and/or others have a hard time connecting with me. I'll keep trying, friendships is a challenge for me.

I look back and realize that I've never really had any friends. Today I am involved in church, have lived by neighbors for 10 years and have worked in the same place for 15 years. I've realized that I may be friendly with people I interact with but they are not my friends. How is this done...

Well today a coworker, out of the blue, said that out of all the coworkers I've known over the years, I respect you the most, you are a good man! I hope this doesn't feeling like bragging. Maybe I'm not the life of the party and some people find me boring but my character has had an impact...

Today a coworker complimented me. We were talking about a particular coworker who is not a very hard worker but everyone loves and this was why she gets away with things. (I know this is gossip, I'm sorry) Then she said that I love working with you but I'd rather have a bear with (the other...

I just read the article you posted about self confidence, I like what it said about self talk, seeing it as a bug that needs to be squashed.

Thanks for sharing and your encouragement. I remember someone in high school committed suicide, he was very popular and the whole school took it hard. I know this is selfish but I remember thinking, why him? I had no friends and he had many friends. It got better in college but I'll never...

I feel lonely but I like being alone. Last night I went to a Bible Study. Even though I'm an introvert I went but I had to motivate myself to go. I enjoy the people and especially the Bible discussion but after a few hours I really wanted to go home. There is something tonight that I could...

Thanks, baby steps...focusing on the present.....I'm one to analyze things to death and I've been doing this all my life. It's a hard habit to break.

Thank you for your thoughts, I will take your advice.

Thanks for your post. When my wife said these things, she was angry at me and she normally doesn't say these type of things. She really tries to be supportive even though she is not the listening type. The problem is with me, not her. What she did say really hurt deeply because it's what...

Thank you for your post. It is nice to know that there are others that you can relate to.