Recent content by mike1111

You can value time alone for sure but most people need some human contact as well. More even than just human contact, most people need to have access to someone else on the same wavelength. You don't often get that in a crowd. People who can be happy in total isolation are unusual.

Keep trying. There is no reason why it can't happen.

I understand why you feel discouraged. I get it that you have tried everything and it hasn't worked. I just wonder whether you are letting the weight of baggage from the past pull you down. I know this is a cliche but it is a fact that the past is gone. Time starts now. It doesn't necessarily...

Try a singing group (there are quite a few where you don't have to be a good singer), walking group (some areas have health walks were you just turn up), church (it doesn't matter about your beliefs, there are people there who would speak to you), U3A discussion group, book club. In the latter...

I have had that happen to me a few times. It is a very unpleasant feeling. A few things come to mind. For sure some people really are unfriendly or they might think, "I've got my social life sorted; I don't need anyone else". However there are a lot of people who feel insecure in themselves and...

When you say let the thoughts run through your head, do you mean you don't dwell on the thoughts but let them pass by.

I agree.  I would find it very stressful if I couldn't get away from people. I can happily spend a lot of time on my own but it is nice to be able to choose. I think feeling isolated is not a good feeling.

I can understand both the comments above. I also think small talk is frustratingly shallow. On the other hand I don't think rejecting people because of it is the best approach. It is very difficult to strike up a deep and meaningful conversation with someone you don't know and I think nearly...

I can understand this but in another thread you say you try to shut everyone else out of you life. Why?

I can definitely identify with some of the things you have said here. I have experienced the same things regarding making efforts but nothing ever coming of it. I also agree that feelings of isolation are scary. Thinking on the positive side, the past does not have to be a predictor of the...

I have been to many things on my own. As I said in recent post, everyone there is on their own actually. You are no more on your own than anyone else. The only difference is whether you know the person next to you or not.  I know its nice to be able to share the experience with someone else...

Whether you believe in God or whatever you think God is, there does exist a concept of God in the minds of many people. I have found that church people on the whole tend to be friendly and considerate of other people. I wouldn't write them off if you are lonely. I have also  found that if I...

I've been thinking about this and jotted down some thoughts. I don't claim any originality! I have experienced how unpleasant it can be to be lonely, and how it can play on your mind. If you think about it the wrong way and worry about it, it becomes a kind of panic. It can suck you into a...