Recent content by Neena21

  Hello Zedr What i would suggest is that with shyness it is important to bring people to you.  So join groups etc.  when you go remember to smile and wear something bright that will attract people to you.  Also take along sweets that you can offer to people. This will bring people to you. ...

Hello mike1111 No i literally go over negative conversations that i have had with people, particularly times when i have been bullied.  It gets so bad that i get headaches. I have imaginery conversations with people where i discuss loneliness and how hard it is to make friends etc. I've tried...

To answer your question.  Hobbies, interests, courses and volunteering.  Remember it takes time to make friends, so unless you are lucky you won't make friends in a few weeks.  You might have to go for a couple of months. Also try Meetups. Remember also that most friends you make will be...

I love being on my own to and see it as a postive. However i find it get depressed when i spend too much time on my own. I like my space, but after a while its nice for me to be around people.

I let my negative thoughts run through my head. I also keep busy with various activities.

Hello Cucuboth I read your post with interest. I wonder do you feel nervous when you have to meet people? Do you have difficulty with socialising? The reason I ask is that you mention that no one wants to talk to you and that you don't make friends at the various groups you attend. It maybe...

I've spent christmas on my own for years and i love it!!! I cook a big meal and anything thats left over i freeze and have over the next few weeks. This way nothing is wasted. I watch films on the day and listen to Christmas songs. I absolutely love Christmas, where i live the city normally...

It really does depend on your workplace. I've worked in mostly toxic nasty environments and most of my bosses have bullied me. I've seen so called friends falling out, witnessed drama and very nasty office politics. I've made friends at work, but none of these friendships have survived...

I agree with you. Especially if you are lonely you don't have a network to start with. So where to start? I like many hear have tried courses, classes and work but find that once these things end, the friendships fizzle out. Not for lack of trying on my part. But i guess people loose...

I would suggest Meetups as they have plenty of groups for all interests. Also Facebook has alot of local interest groups. I've heard good things about dancing classes (if you are interested) or sports clubs - so park run etc. Thats all i can think of.

I think once people get into their 30's they start to settle down and/or have children. they just don't have the time or need for new friends. Also people become a bit more cynical, closed off and less trusting of others. The long work culture we have and the long commutes don't help, as...

Agreed - action speak louder then words. However taking action is the hardest step for quite a few people. Especially when you've been rejected alot and are like me caustious, hestitant and wary of people. I have over the past few years i have stepped out of my comfort zone, by getting...

Absolutely. It makes sense. I do it alot. I fantasise that I am a movie star and i see myself in programmes that I like to watch. I also fantasise alot about being married, having kids. Years ago i used to fantasise about hanging out with wealthy people and being wealthy. Over the years my...

I actually watch documentaries on Youtube, i go to coffee shops and for walks in the park. I stream programmes and films. I cook which helps me to relax. I also drink tea. I have teapots and fancy cups - all of this helps me.