Recent content by SpiffyPanda

Well, as I said, I'm not looking for advice. I just want to feel like what I'm feeling is okay. I want to be able to share my experiences with people and have them understand - truly understand, not just polite, removed, everyone is different, no judgement "understanding".  As for having an...

I don't want therapy for myself because I think I can understand and help myself better than any stranger can. And discussing your concerns anonymously with people who are on equal footing with you is different and much better than paying a so-called "specialist" who apparently knows better than...

Objective truth does exist, but it's not something that can be expressed in words, only felt. God can only be felt, never fully understood by the mind. That's why religion, which consists of linguistically articulated guidelines, can only ever be a partial truth, an approximation that works well...

All of those are people, no? ;) And there's a difference between thinking and feeling. You can know that something is not true yet still continue to struggle. Just like you can know the cause and structure of something and still continue to struggle. It's the difference between theory and...

Have you ever tried meditation?

Sometimes it helps to just accept that everything feels shitty and sit with that feeling for a while

No such thing as hard truth when it comes to human experience. Unless it's something you discover for yourself from within. Which is exactly why I'd rather avoid them. I feel like if you want "objective" help to reach your own conclusions, you're better off reading books, learning about the...

What woman wouldn't want an "alpha"? A man who is mature, confident, strong and a good leader? I feel like those are universally attractive qualities. It's not just about having big muscles and being cocky, you know. Fun fact: It just so happens that I am a Ukrainian woman 😜 A true "alpha"...

I think that any sort of "help" should be reciprocal - when both people want to listen and understand each other a.k.a. love and friendship. There's this idea floating around that emotions get in the way of reason, and emotionally removed means better understanding, which is wrong. That's like...

They shouldn't and they can't possibly. And that's exactly my point. And surgeons are healing physical wounds, not emotional ones, so it's different.  I'm sure therapy is helpful to some. But I don't want it for myself.

It doesn't make sense to me to separate the two. It feels so fake and wrong to bear your soul to someone who doesn't genuinely care.

Three times, and it felt just as disappointing and pathetic as I thought it would. Paying someone to pretend to care for an hour a week isn't what I need.

God goes by different names

There was a time I was a stranger And everything felt different And everything felt new And clean and simple There were lights and sights and sounds Nonsense filled my head And longing filled my heart And deeper there was peace This strange and lonely world Was mine alone

A romantic connection is more than just having someone to talk to and confide in. There's a certain polarity between feminine and masculine that makes it very passionate and intimate. With a romantic connection, it feels like there is more and more that you want to expose, in a sense that...