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yes I like having 15 year old's tower over me...

Heels?
The best in all the realm! šŸ¤ŗ

I like my height. I can comfortably fit in the driver's seat of a Mustang...that's tall enough for me.
My American friend drives a mustang its soooooo loud omfg šŸ˜±

Heel height dont matter in modelling šŸ˜ž I wear super high heels on a night out though to look better šŸ˜…
 
According to statistics alot of men prefer females in the 18-23 age bracket since it is the prime years where girls peak in both physical appearence and health.
 
Guess I only have a couple of years left to be considered attractive to men šŸ˜… I better make this short time count šŸ¤£
 
Itā€™s not creepy. I mean I find lots of younger men attractive but I wouldnā€™t feel comfortable dating someone too much younger or older than me. I find lots of women attractive but I wouldnā€™t date them. It does seem silly to say you are attracted to only a certain age range because you feel like you missed out. Why not just say you only like a certain age because you are shallow and your not wanting to be older is the reason. You missed out, big deal. People who married out of high school and divorced when the kids were gone missed out on some stuff too. Does that mean they should only be attracted to people in the age range now of when they were married. It just sounds like an excuse. You like younger women, who caresā€¦own it. Donā€™t get all butt hurt when those women donā€™t like you back or arenā€™t attracted to you and blame it on them.
 
Oh, ardour, you like who you like. Simple as that.
Reiterating it on here makes no difference, you don't need anyone's approval.

According 18-23 age bracket since it is the prime years where girls peak in both physical appearence and health.
Not in America so much. I mean maybe that statistic applied in the 50s-70s but there are plenty of overweight, out of shape 18-23 year olds due to lack of concern for their health with a solid diet of Big Mac's, and twinkies. I don't think it's that bad in EU...but in America.. ooof
 
Women, of all ages, are like flowers, each with different colour, design and beauty. Having said that, like flowers, the ones you pick up at gas stations are rarely the best quality.
 
Women, of all ages, are like flowers, each with different colour, design and beauty. Having said that, like flowers, the ones you pick up at gas stations are rarely the best quality.
Ive had several guys approach me at the gas station. Wonder if that means I look like the gas station quality.šŸ¤” I heard a term recently "lot lizard" ...I didn't know what it was. Maybe that's what I look like. Although I've never had a truck driver hit on me but I don't usually go to truck stops. This is interesting.
 
Ive had several guys approach me at the gas station. Wonder if that means I look like the gas station quality.šŸ¤” I heard a term recently "lot lizard" ...I didn't know what it was. Maybe that's what I look like. Although I've never had a truck driver hit on me but I don't usually go to truck stops. This is interesting.
Guys that look like they would either kill you or give you some kind of nasty disease?. The first question is "Where yo man at?"
 
Itā€™s not creepy. I mean I find lots of younger men attractive but I wouldnā€™t feel comfortable dating someone too much younger or older than me. I find lots of women attractive but I wouldnā€™t date them. It does seem silly to say you are attracted to only a certain age range because you feel like you missed out. Why not just say you only like a certain age because you are shallow and your not wanting to be older is the reason. You missed out, big deal. People who married out of high school and divorced when the kids were gone missed out on some stuff too. Does that mean they should only be attracted to people in the age range now of when they were married. It just sounds like an excuse. You like younger women, who caresā€¦own it. Donā€™t get all butt hurt when those women donā€™t like you back or arenā€™t attracted to you and blame it on them.
The thing with the couple in your example is they paired up when they were young and aged together. Thatā€™s a far cry from waiting until middle age to start dating.

Iā€™m not sure how to choose not to be superficial over this, and I have tried: gone to singles meetups where there were mainly older age groups present, divorcees probably. And while some of them seemed nice enough as people, as far as the sexual attraction side of it went, well there wasn't much. And I couldnā€™t help feeling angry at some of these women, smiling, expecting me to come over and chat them up I guess. They have already had their lives ā€“ men having shown up for them for decades, but Iā€™ve missed mine, and now Iā€™m expected to turn up for them in their 40s and 50s, someone who they wouldnā€™t even have spoken to when we were in our twenties. Itā€™s ā€˜my turnā€™ and I should be grateful having finally been given a chance when weā€™re old and unable to have children. I don't think it's a simple matter of bypassing decades of psychological development and choosing to settle for something like that.
 
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What's that look ?
I just thought it was funny because you said women at gas stations aren't the best quality. I was thinking these dudes were hitting on me because they liked what they saw. I never considered they thought I was easy. It was funny because I was thinking I was cute.šŸ˜‚ I'm a dumby
 
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. . . I have tried: gone to singles meetups where there were mainly older age groups present, divorcees probably. And while some of them seemed nice enough as people, as far as the sexual attraction side of it went, well there was none. And I couldnā€™t help feeling angry at some of these women, smiling, expecting me to come over and chat them up I guess. They have already had their lives ā€“ men having shown up for them for decades, but Iā€™ve missed mine, and now Iā€™m expected to turn up for them in their 40s and 50s, someone who they wouldnā€™t even have spoken to me when we were in our twenties.
Hang on, hang on. Isn't this all conjecture on your part? I mean, you've gone to single meetups but it sounds like you've already passed judgement on these women - at least from your description here. You say they're "probably divorcees", you insinuate that men have been hitting on them for decades, that they've had their lives. Did you TALK to these women? Do you know these statements for facts or are you just conveniently painting them all with the same brush? Maybe try going to one of these meet-ups and laying aside the pre-formed biases, talk to people and see where it leads you.
 
I just thought it was funny because you said women at gas stations aren't the best quality. I was thinking these dudes were hitting on me because they liked what they saw. I never considered they thought I was easy. It was funny because I was thinking I was cute.šŸ˜‚ I'm a dumby
I was just messing around. Cute women are everywhere, including gas stations. I wouldn't worry too much about it.
 
The thing with the couple in your example is they paired up when they were young and aged together. Thatā€™s a far cry from waiting until middle age to start dating.

Iā€™m not sure how to choose not to be superficial over this, and I have tried: gone to singles meetups where there were mainly older age groups present, divorcees probably. And while some of them seemed nice enough as people, as far as the sexual attraction side of it went, well there was none. And I couldnā€™t help feeling angry at some of these women, smiling, expecting me to come over and chat them up I guess. They have already had their lives ā€“ men having shown up for them for decades, but Iā€™ve missed mine, and now Iā€™m expected to turn up for them in their 40s and 50s, someone who they wouldnā€™t even have spoken to me when we were in our twenties. Itā€™s ā€˜my turnā€™ and I should be grateful having finally been given a chance when weā€™re old and unable to have children.

I don't think it's a simple matter of bypass decades of psychological development and choosing to settle for something I don't want and can't even picture.
No, you shouldn't settle but you should own it. Really, who are you trying to convince? Honestly, its not as though its taboo. Age gaps, big deal. No one cares. The point was that you don't have to explain your preferences to anyone. I like tall men, sure I could tell you why but does your approval or disapproval change it? Hell no. I do hope when you find her you don't make excuses and blame everyone else for your shortcomings. Trust me its not cool. I still don't understand how you can't meet a chick at a bar or something like that. When was the last time you chatted a chick up?
 
Hang on, hang on. Isn't this all conjecture on your part? I mean, you've gone to single meetups but it sounds like you've already passed judgement on these women - at least from your description here. You say they're "probably divorcees", you insinuate that men have been hitting on them for decades, that they've had their lives. Did you TALK to these women? Do you know these statements for facts or are you just conveniently painting them all with the same brush? Maybe try going to one of these meet-ups and laying aside the pre-formed biases, talk to people and see where it leads you.
It is conjecture but itā€™s reasonable to assume someone in their 40s has had exes, if not having been married before. I ended up in a few conversations they mostly initiated, or in a group, and, just as expected, we were at different phases of life. One woman became obnoxious once it was clear I wasnā€™t interested that way. Itā€™s not as if these woman were unattractive exactly, but there wasnā€™t any of the ā€œ butterfliesā€ type attraction going on either. It felt more awkward than anything, I left feeling worse than before.
 
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But what if more 40 year olds showed more interest in you than 20 something year olds ... You did say those women were not unattractive, right? what I'm trying to say is, if the 20 year old's are not interested you and you never find one who is - are you unwilling to settle with an attractive 40 yr old even if you don't get "butterflies"? or be alone the rest of your life because of your pickiness towards age?
genuine question - not trying to attack you ... I find your topics generate the most interesting q&a's
 

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