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Yes. You can't say ****, ****, dick, *******, and a bunch of other words. Ha! Ha!

I mean, I type the way that I talk and write, which is almost entirely from a stream of consciousness. I'm not worried about the censor bars though, that doesn't bother me. Although I will admit that it reminds me of comic books as a kid. (y)🥴
 
I'd say it's a **** you! .... ah **** I can't 😥
Well, considering I seem to be the resident scapegoat around here, I'd say it was always going to be a fresia you, but well, I had to try....

I do find it rather telling how they clearly decided cursing is not allowed anymore, yet nothing is being said to anyone trying so very hard to bypass the censor. It makes it hilarious how certain people think I get a pass for "breaking rules" when I seem to be the ONLY one who got in trouble for cursing.....
 
Well, considering I seem to be the resident scapegoat around here, I'd say it was always going to be a **** you, but well, I had to try....

I do find it rather telling how they clearly decided cursing is not allowed anymore, yet nothing is being said to anyone trying so very hard to bypass the censor. It makes it hilarious how certain people think I get a pass for "breaking rules" when I seem to be the ONLY one who got in trouble for cursing.....
Well, you shouldn't curse so ******* much. That'll ******* teach you to say fresia all the ******* time.
...I feel like Ernie in that Sesame Street video 😆
 
There has been no rule changes. Some of the recent outbursts of obscenities has made it clear that the Terms Of Service prohibition on such things has not been enforced to the degree that the forum owner desires. The filter is their first step in trying to get cooperation in complying with the Terms Of Service on this matter.
 
There has been no rule changes. Some of the recent outbursts of obscenities has made it clear that the Terms Of Service prohibition on such things has not been enforced to the degree that the forum owner desires. The filter is their first step in trying to get cooperation in complying with the Terms Of Service on this matter.
Okay fine, I'll concede to the lack of rule changes, but no one can deny the site changes.
Like the stickied threads vanishing. Some of those threads didn't need stickied, in my opinion, but some of them shouldn't have been removed. To have them removed and replaced with "hey, give us money" seems a little uncaring to me. Like whoever the owners of the forum are now don't give a flying monkey butt about the members of this forum.
As I said, it would be nice to have a little transparency about what's going on and what other changes are coming.
 
I think it would be better to have an age restriction, since there aren't that many young teenagers on here.
Or to maybe have age-restricted zones, where there is no cursing - like a teenage zone, and mature zone.

And a lot of the content, just people's real life issues that they deal with, aren't very kid-friendly by nature.
This is after all, "A Lonely Life" forums, not "My Life is Wonderful, Everything is Fine" forums.
People are usually here because they are dealing with some kind of unhappiness, sometimes very deep unhappiness. And in the course of that they might curse to express strong emotion. Given the serious nature of some of the things people deal with here, it feels like not just censoring words but censoring emotions.

And like others said, users have been bashed in other ways too, besides just swearing. This has been a long-time issue on here that's never really made any sense. Ever so often, you'll get someone who knowingly and intentionally, and obviously, tactically antagonizes other members. Eventually their target has enough and curses the antagonist out, only for the target person to be seen as the problem because they cursed, and not the tactical antagonist, who was obviously harassing the person - even after the target tries politely but clearly telling the antagonist to leave them alone, and even after the antagonist gets an official warning. This, I think, is the much greater threat to creating an inclusive environment, than a few bad words that, let's be honest, are everywhere these days whether we like it or not. Thankfully this tactical antagonism isn't common, but I've seen people quit the forum over it several times. I almost did after one particular instance, myself.

Overall it just kind of has the feeling of,
"big corporation buys small business,
makes changes that users don't want because big corp. doesn't understand the culture".

Anyway, while I understand that ultimately it's going to be whatever it's going to be, this is just my feedback.
 
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Might be helpful to have a dialogue box on the front end of this site dedicated to forum notices such as for example, site changes so as to avoid another situation developing as what has happened here.

Could be more useful than continually looking at adverts for ebay and amazon. Unless of course one happens to be looking for a swear box to buy.
 
At this point, I don't really care what the changes are. I just want to post funny pics and laugh at them. Ha! Ha!

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@TheRealCallie
The stickies are an entirely different matter than nonexistent rule changes but I can't help you there considering that you knew about them disappearing before I did.

@Galen
Typically what we are aware of gets mentioned in this forum. As far as the ads I would guess that the owner bought the forum for that purpose. The days of a relatively ad free web are long gone. Even Bjarnes made his attempts at weaving ads into the forum.

@TheSkaFish
If the owner doesn't want obscene/profane language, I don't see them rebuilding the forum so it can have swearing zones. I don't even see them changing their minds on the swearing. We have already expressed many of the opinions that you have stated on the subject but still it would seem that we just have to see where this leaves us.

@Abstamyous
I don't seem to recall anything obscene about the ranting Hitler.
 
The stickies are an entirely different matter than nonexistent rule changes but I can't help you there considering that you knew about them disappearing before I did.
So, they are just going to do whatever they want and not discuss anything with the people that have run this place forever or the people that actually use the forum....got it.

As for the swearing, I don't care. Tell me I can't swear and I won't swear. (yes, I will complain at first, but I won't swear) What gets me is that I got in trouble for swearing, I got posts deleted for swearing. No one else did....so I guess the mysterious new forum owners who only want to make money will be targeting me as well? Good to know. It's Lonekiller all over again.....

And no, you didn't say either of the things I said. It's what I am concluding from the information I have.
 
Oh for crying out loud that is enough Callie. There is NO target on you or anyone, other posts got deleted too, and the person you antagonised got a ban, stop playing the victim. No one has taken away anything it has only been censored so everyone else doesn't have to put up with all the cursing from those of you who use it excessively. Those of you who do are the ones who brought this on, you are to blame here not anyone else. No site owner is under any obligation to notify anyone about changes they want to make to their site, you don't pay to be here it is free for you to use and be respectful to those around you. You can't go into any public place and curse like some of you do, you will get asked to stop or get kicked out. Forums aren't any different, just because you are at home hiding behind your screens doesn't mean people have to put up with it. I know of very few forums that actually allow cursing, even ones that do have a limit to how much they will put up with it. You've reached that limit.

Consider this topic closed, and I don't want PM's about it either. Enough is enough, move on. There are more important things than people having to put up with someone swearing at them all of the time.
 
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