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So recent events have me thinking about how I lost my childhood best friend to a very similar almost identical situation.

When I was younger, I had a best friend I grew up with, we was neighbours, she was older than me in school years but we spent most of the year the same age as she was the “baby of her year group”. Now to paint a picture of how close we were, we had a best friends diary in which we would swap over the fence every day and leave notes in it to each other.

My friend moved schools and I remember thinking, we’re best friends forever, nothing will change that. However, in her new school she became friends with a girl that was extremely popular, very beautiful.

One day, we went for a long walk to the popular girls house, I was very nervous, confiding in my best friend that I was a little worried she wouldn’t like me. Outside the house we bumped into the popular girls little sister who ran up to us with a drawing, I laughed in a friendly way at the drawing and said wow this is so cute.

I met the girl and we got on like a house on fire. I was shocked. She’s older than me, and super popular and well we all know I didn't glow up until late in life.

Anywho… I left the house and I was telling my bestie how much I really liked her friend and cannot wait to go back to see her again. A couple of weeks passed by and I was always asking about her friend, hoping she was okay and wondering when we could see her again. I also confided in my bestie that I was feeling a little nervous that an amazing friend like that, is better than anything I can offer and she may not want to be best friends with me anymore.

So it’s early on a… Friday? I make the trip to grab something for my dad from the local store, which is the opposite way I go to school. There is no way I’d usually bump into my friend or her new friend any other time but today as I was making that special trip. I hear a lot of shouting and I see a large crowd of some older kids. Wow sigh of relief ! My bestie is there along with her new friend, I jump to say hi! I was met with “You are a liar, you laughed at my little sister behind my back and you was jealous of my friendship with your bestie” I was shocked. "What? What do you mean?”

It’s always this way around too, I am met with a barrage of personal attacks because they think I’ve been sitting around saying worse about them behind their backs, also this makes it hard to back track and believe anything I say now, as no one wants to think they have attacked someone based on a lie.

What breaks my heart is, the truth is so far from the lies people seem to tell about me, and it’s always the same old lies, I am some sort of 2 faced female dog. I am not. I am very direct, they take things I have said out of context on purpose and try to poison people against me. But you know the funny thing is, only a confrontation makes the truth come out. If I was a sneaky snake, the truth would never come out. If I genuinely did all them things and it came out, I would deny everything, or idk what someone would do? But I always say what I said, in the correct context, if the person is mad at me over what I actually said and did, fine, but what you should always think is, if they are talking about me... they are talking about you and it's all false whizz.

Me and my bestie never really spoke again. My cousin actually slept with her, met her family and pretended he wanted to be with her and broke her heart… no idea why, but I am sure I am to blame for that too somehow. Her mother and grandmother even came to my mum like… is Ceno okay with the relationship as it’s getting serious and we dont want her to hold on to the past grudges and ruin what they have…. please… not everyone is as sick and twisted as your daughter.

This time around I recognised the situation instantly, still so shocked that someone I really trusted with everything would do something so childish and low down. I hope they admitted the lies they told to the people they hurt with them. As thats more important to me than an apology, that I knew, I would never get.
 
they take things I have said out of context on purpose and try to poison people against me
I know this very well. Happens to me both in person and online. Happens the most here on this forum.
People are ALWAYS going to do this. Doesn't matter what setting you are in or how old you are, people are always going to do this. Maybe not always someone you thought was your friend, but still.
In the end though, the people who honestly care about you won't take notice of it or give any credence to the bullpoopie. And if other people choose to believe the lies, they aren't worth your time.
I wish people in general would learn to make their own decisions and get to know someone first, but that won't always happen. Some people just relish the drama and hatred. Some people are jealous and do what they can to knock a person down. And some people just get into a clique and go after anyone who doesn't "fit in." We are all human beings and deserve to be treated as such, whether you like the person or not. Even people from your past who saw the bad things you did need to understand that people can change. That people can better themselves and be a different person than the one they knew way back when, but some people choose to hold on to the past and their grudges. You can't do anything about that.
 
I have ADD but your new look wow
Thank you Salem :) I am supposed to give Shakira album cover vibes.

I know this very well. Happens to me both in person and online. Happens the most here on this forum.
People are ALWAYS going to do this. Doesn't matter what setting you are in or how old you are, people are always going to do this. Maybe not always someone you thought was your friend, but still.
In the end though, the people who honestly care about you won't take notice of it or give any credence to the bullpoopie. And if other people choose to believe the lies, they aren't worth your time.
I wish people in general would learn to make their own decisions and get to know someone first, but that won't always happen. Some people just relish the drama and hatred. Some people are jealous and do what they can to knock a person down. And some people just get into a clique and go after anyone who doesn't "fit in." We are all human beings and deserve to be treated as such, whether you like the person or not. Even people from your past who saw the bad things you did need to understand that people can change. That people can better themselves and be a different person than the one they knew way back when, but some people choose to hold on to the past and their grudges. You can't do anything about that.

Ugh... tell me about it, starting to drive me up the wall and left. However, I dont blame people for believing all the crap because you'd think... why would they lie? What benefit would that give?

I like what you put about people being able to change, I have changed a lot, things I would have done/said previously I don't anymore.Maybe I am mature now? lol
 
However, I dont blame people for believing all the crap because you'd think... why would they lie? What benefit would that give?
Because everyone lies. Not only that, but different people have different experiences with others. Their perspectives are too out of whack to give people a chance, so they seem to think that EVERYONE will have the same experience with that person or they don't want you being around that person because they aren't "cool" enough or they might be jealous of you have others around you for whatever reason.
 
It's Sabrina not Shakira .. put that story behind, people attack when they feel guilty or they're jealous of your purity ... I know how it is, they call me a perv or a troll ... btw from your posts girls are very sexually active in your country
 
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Because everyone lies. Not only that, but different people have different experiences with others. Their perspectives are too out of whack to give people a chance, so they seem to think that EVERYONE will have the same experience with that person or they don't want you being around that person because they aren't "cool" enough or they might be jealous of you have others around you for whatever reason.
This is true, sometimes I feel like im doing a massive favour putting warning labels on people but how they treat me could be 10 times different than how they treat you.

It's Sabrina not Shakira .. put that story behind, people attack when they feel guilty or they're jealous of your purity ... I know how it is, they call me a perv or a troll ... btw from your posts girls are very sexually active in your country
I will Cherubino I am sick of caring so much about things I cant change, omg yes they areeeee haven’t heard about the “British girl” stereotype?
 
I know this very well. Happens to me both in person and online. Happens the most here on this forum.
People are ALWAYS going to do this. Doesn't matter what setting you are in or how old you are, people are always going to do this. Maybe not always someone you thought was your friend, but still.
In the end though, the people who honestly care about you won't take notice of it or give any credence to the bullpoopie. And if other people choose to believe the lies, they aren't worth your time.
I wish people in general would learn to make their own decisions and get to know someone first, but that won't always happen. Some people just relish the drama and hatred. Some people are jealous and do what they can to knock a person down. And some people just get into a clique and go after anyone who doesn't "fit in." We are all human beings and deserve to be treated as such, whether you like the person or not. Even people from your past who saw the bad things you did need to understand that people can change. That people can better themselves and be a different person than the one they knew way back when, but some people choose to hold on to the past and their grudges. You can't do anything about that.
So true
 

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