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So i have a friend. He's not a close friend , he's just a friend that we hang out sometimes (only when i asked him tho i don't know if that is very bad or somewhat good) either way, one day i dm him "i need a hug" and his response was "im at my home, do something to forget what's making u sad". In a way it's acceptable cuz we ain't that close but i hoped he would tell "where u at, im coming" cuz in a way we hang out so that means u like me and this incident would make us be more close. And tbh my heart really need it to hear this from someone and i want people like that around me, it's my vibe too doing those stuff. So I'm thinking, that people don't react they way we react or act the same as we do but in the end we all humans and humanity must be in all of us. Don't you agree?
 
It sounds like you want more than a friendship with this person. I think you should be honest with this person and tell him how you feel. Take your shot or you might regret it.

If not then, what do you actually want this relationship to be? Can you honestly answer that question?
 
It sounds like you want more than a friendship with this person. I think you should be honest with this person and tell him how you feel. Take your shot or you might regret it.

If not then, what do you actually want this relationship to be? Can you honestly answer that question?
Um i want him as a friend nothing more. But friends can hug you too or be there for you.
 
Close friends maybe but you said it yourself, he's not a close friend. What were you expecting? For him to drop everything and rush to your aid? That's unrealistic considering he's not even a close friend to you.

To answer your question, no I don't agree. You need to spend more time with this person before you can expect them to be more loving and caring towards you. By spending more time with them, you become more valuable to them and they become more valuable to you.

Just try to have realistic expectations until then.
 
Close friends maybe but you said it yourself, he's not a close friend. What were you expecting? For him to drop everything and rush to your aid? That's unrealistic considering he's not even a close friend to you.

To answer your question, no I don't agree. You need to spend more time with this person before you can expect them to be more loving and caring towards you. By spending more time with them, you become more valuable to them and they become more valuable to you.

Just try to have realistic expectations until then.
But life isn't to take for granted friend. We think we have time to wait but we don't. No-one said rush and leave your things behind but you can also ask "if you want some company when im free today or tomorrow doesn't matter"
People Caring for people it's not meant to be only for close people.
 
honestly I don't believe in close (and even tactile) friendship between two singles, at least on his side ... on longer term he will want to f*** you, actually I think he already did it in imagination
 
honestly I don't believe in close (and even tactile) friendship between two singles, at least on his side ... on longer term he will want to f*** you, actually I think he already did it in imagination
Yeah tho he's a very humble person and we spoke about romantically involvement but he denied and i believe him. I don't know if I'd make a move he would say no but if he let's say does like me otherwise he would have say to come find me.
 
Do you like him more then a friend?Or do you think he likes you more then a friend,and is just too shy to tell you?
 
Do you like him more then a friend?Or do you think he likes you more then a friend,and is just too shy to tell you?
No we just friends but i guess that either he doesn't want us to be more close friends so he cares but not too much or he's not expressing how he cares in that way
 
So i have a friend. He's not a close friend , he's just a friend that we hang out sometimes (only when i asked him tho i don't know if that is very bad or somewhat good) either way, one day i dm him "i need a hug" and his response was "im at my home, do something to forget what's making u sad". In a way it's acceptable cuz we ain't that close but i hoped he would tell "where u at, im coming" cuz in a way we hang out so that means u like me and this incident would make us be more close. And tbh my heart really need it to hear this from someone and i want people like that around me, it's my vibe too doing those stuff. So I'm thinking, that people don't react they way we react or act the same as we do but in the end we all humans and humanity must be in all of us. Don't you agree?
Well, you can't expect people to guess your staye of mind or the actions you HOPE they will have concerning vague statements and innuendo. Not everyone reacts to the same things in the same eay, therefore the importance of making clear and concise statements. This is doubly yrue on the net, where one cannot read faces, looks, body language, etc. You also never know how the other person reacts, if it's considered to be adequate or exagerrated. I personnally shy away from these kinds of things, which I consider to be "games". This has a definite romantic feel to it, so my suggestion would be to sort out your feelings for this person first and if you feel you eant something specific out of them, let them know clearly. "Would you come over and give me a hug?" would have produced the results you were hoping for.
 
My opinion is: Male and Female friends don't hug each other a lot. Specially if as you said he is not a close friend.

I mean the moment you let someone to get as close as hugging then your are increasing the level of intimacy (wither it was intended or not). With this increase of intimacy, your level of friendship start to cross in to something more. And there is nothing wrong with it, we all need a hug from time to time, but honestly, few people is willing to let some one to get that close due to fear of getting involve emotionally.

So you maybe be in need of this higher level of intimacy, but your friend obviously not. Just simply take it as it is, he is just not hat kind of friend.
 
I wouldn't bring it up again to him. Just go on like it was never said and let him initiate it. Keep hanging out and maybe it will turn into a closer friendship later.
 

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